<p>aibarr: based on your CC posts it is no surprise that your MIL loves you very much. No need for comparisons to high strung exes :). I have a son at Rice and I have thought a couple of times over the last year that I hoped he found someone of similar quality to love.</p>
<p>My MIL and I were extremely close friends; in fact, I met my S through her (she was my HS English teacher, and I met him at her house after I graduated).</p>
<p>Other family members:
My impression was that my mom’s MIL judged her imperfect.
My SIL thinks her MIL (my mom) is perfect (she often tells my bro that if they ever gets divorced, she gets custody of mom.
That’s about it–my family has become rather marriage-challenged.</p>
<p>my mother- I don’t think my grandmother liked her at all- but as a Christian woman, and as a mom whose own daughter took off for India ( as a missionary) as soon as she graduated college and only returned for short visits every 4-8 years, grandma took what she could get.</p>
<p>My own mother hasn’t liked either of the women my brother was ( is) married to.
I do- although I wonder at their taste.
Mom also doesn’t really like sisters spouse, and complains about him, but defers to him on many matters, she is totally about " male superiority" although she would deny it.</p>
<p>My grandparents ( maternal), liked my husband very much ( they didn’t like my previous boyfriend),and because I was so young I paid a lot of attention to that, even though he didn’t treat me very well.</p>
<p>I have noticed that in general, women with sons, tend to like their sons sig others much less, than women with daughters like their daughters sig others.
My mother likes my husband as well, I even think she likes him more than me, because he is all about appearances and not what happens when the door is closed, I am more of a troublemaker 
( typical I am finding for alcoholics and ACOA)</p>
<p>I have known men, whose mothers adored me, I kinda wonder why I didn’t pay more attention to that, cause it is a bigger deal than I thought it would be.</p>
<p>The first time I met my MIL, she was ironing … a pair of jockey shorts.
Why this was not a red flag, I do not know. 
I don’t even iron my sheets!
( or make my bed, unless you count fluffing the comforter)
;)</p>
<p>“I have known men, whose mothers adored me, I kinda wonder why I didn’t pay more attention to that, cause it is a bigger deal than I thought it would be.”</p>
<p>If H had introduced me to his Mom early in our relationship it definitely would have been a deal breaker. It almost was after we were already engaged. I hope I am never a deal breaker for any of my children in their love lives.</p>
<p>I IGNORED all the signs of trouble from my MIL because I figured she would decide I was okay after all. Boy was I wrong, I love my husband but I have to tell you that she caused so much drama all the time that I am suprised, no SHOCKED that we are still together. </p>
<p>Would I have done it all over had I known? I really can’t answer that because my husband didn’t want to rock the boat either & it really damaged our relationship for a long time. </p>
<p>Ironically after his brother saw how she was (he got married about 12 years after us - we will be married 25 yrs this year) he told his mother that if she said ONE thing to his future bride then she would never see her grandchildren. It worked, but the funny thing - she stays in her room (a lot) when they are in town. I think it is to hold herself back from saying how much she disapproves of how they are raising their children! Kind of funny, but sad at the same time.</p>
<p>Awww, thank you, intransition, that’s really sweet. I’m sure your son will find someone just fantastic at Rice! (If my brother, a Rice grad student of whom I’m very fond, doesn’t snag that perfect gal first… Here’s hoping there are at <em>least</em> two such ladies on campus!)</p>
<p>I get along with my MIL fine. Sometimes you just have to admit that your H married someone like his mother ;). My MIL has more problems with my SIL, they are very different. My SIL is very nice but unorganized and sometimes not very thoughtful. They also live 2 blocks from each other so it’s hard not to be in each others pockets. I am happy that my H chose not to live in the same town as my IL’s, it makes things much nicer.</p>
<p>My mom thinks my H is wonderful. She loves both of her SIL’s, sometimes more than she loves us but they don’t fight with her.</p>
<p>As to the type of MIL I will make, i’d just be happy if my kids would date! LOL! I don’t have a lot of experience but I will try my darnest to like the people my kids bring home. My D had a boyfriend this summer and he was very nice. There were things I didn’t care about him but it’s her pick not mine. I’m afraid that my H will not make as good of a FIL as I will make a MIL. He’s having a little bit of problems letting his baby girl go. Hopefully he will get over this, I don’t think that men want to think about their D’s having sex. Add that to a person who is not the most socially adept person and a D who seems to pick people totally opposite of her father.</p>
<p>We will see, I hope that when my kids find someone, that my H and I will find a way to get along. It would break my heart to not have my kids and their family in my life.</p>
<p>“I don’t think that men want to think about their D’s having sex.”</p>
<p>ROFLOL - that’s whole thread in itself!</p>
<p>My D lives with her BF, so I think that H has accepted that as a possibility.</p>
<p>Luckily, we both like him a lot, and I think we have a good relationship, should this go to permanency, which I make it a policy not to speculate on.</p>
<p>My MIL respected my Mom though they were very different.
She doesn’t really know my siblings.</p>
<p>I think she likes me. We are really different. We don’t have a close relationship and she does stuff that makes me want to scream but I don’t let on how I feel. I just deal with it. We don’t see her very often.</p>
<p>She hates my ex-SIL which puts me way ahead on the DIL continuim.</p>