Accidents vs Stupidiy-Dan Savage chimes in.

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<p>From his current column</p>

<p>"A close gay friend recently seroconverted after months of barebacking and meth use. He’s a successful professional with years of AIDS peer-education experience. My immediate reaction was shock and anger. He claims that I am not a true friend because I should hide my feelings and shower him with empathy and understanding. Is there something wrong with me for feeling mad at my friend for his irresponsibility?</p>

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<p>Let’s say you’ve got two friends. One gets hit by lightning, and the other plops his sopping-wet ass down on a third rail. Do both friends—presuming both survive—deserve your empathy and understanding, OFSSA? Of course. But one friend was electrocuted while the other electrocuted his damn self. Friendship does not obligate you to pretend that your friend who sat his ass down on the third rail wasn’t being idiotic and self-destructive. Friendship, in fact, requires the opposite reaction."</p>

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<p>I think you’re acting the way many people, including me, would react. It’s hard to see a friend self destruct.</p>

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<p>Accidents, schmaccidents. Friend #1 was outside during a thunderstorm. Maybe completely unavoidable, maybe just dumb.</p>

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<p>This is exactly the place to debate this topic.</p>

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<p>Well, both the accidentally struck and dumb a** rail sitter are grievously injured. But only the rail sitter is eligible for a government bail out!</p>

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<p>Now change that to goofing around on rooftops vs taking part in a guided mountain climb at your level of skill and you might get my point.</p>