Acting Manly (Only guys answer)

<p>Very strange question, but I have a gay friend who doesn't want to be "found out" so he wants to know how to act manly. I told him to walk confidently, FLIRT with girls, and act cocky and act aggressive and sometimes get into fights. Any suggestions?</p>

<p>Talk about sports. Burp, don't be neat freak.</p>

<p> obsessed about a sport (manly sport of course) like football, basketball, lacrosse, soccer, cricket, baseball, etc. and talk about it 24/7. :D</p>

<p>OK, I actually hate the guys that act manly. I have a friend that loves it even when they do it totally fake (the friends a girl) which kinda ticks me off...
Um, in accordance with the thread, he doesn't have to act "manly" (aka Homer Simpson) to not be found out. Just don't tell anyone and don't act like the flambuoyant attention-seeking gay people. Many gay people act just like normal people in everyday situations.</p>

<p>he doen'st need to do that to not be seen as gay. to not be "seen" as gay, just try to see if he has any of the more conscipucuous tratis that alert people to a person being gay, such as that particular voice, a way of walking, or dressing really really nicely or too sharply on a regular basis. the voice thing can't really be changed, the dressing thing can be changed, and as for the walking, he should just try walking confidently, though that's subject to debate. though i have to say i don't think your gay friend should try to hide it.</p>

<p>avoid rainbow colored tiedye shirts, avoid trying to be extra neat, avoid having a squeaky voice, and eat like a man...meaning don't load up on the salads at a buffet and claim to be trying to lose weight.</p>

<p>slaps to the butt whenever he wants to congratulate someone.</p>

<p>just dont talk with a gay voice and stop the little gay hand motions.</p>

<p>my friend's a small guy, so he's afraid to you think he can make up for this in any way?</p>

<p>voice .. walk.. hand motions.. clothes.. (neatness dosen't matter)
and you don't have to fight in order ot be a manly man.. however a man gay or straight shouldn't take crap frm anyone.. but yeah definately the voice.. they gay accent thing is annoying... ( no offense to anyone)
and sometimes people ust give off gay vibes.. like this dude i know.. who turned out to be acutally gay</p>

<p><a href=""&gt;;/a> has all sorts of ways to act like a "real man". I think the entire site is bogus, personally.</p>

<p>I'm a straight guy but I've often been accused of being gay because I spend a ton of money on clothes, don't eat that much, always use good manners (I never burp or pass gas in public), would never be caught driving a truck or motorcycle, and have a ton of close girl friends. All of these violate the so-called manlaws, so if you friend wants to put on a "fake show", avoid all of these, I guess.</p>

<p>Men probably don't get into fights intentionally, but boys do.</p>

<p>The "manly" guys I see around here don't look very comfortable in their own skin, but I guess such demeanor comes naturally to them? They always look stiff and have this look about their face (when eyeing girls or when intimidated by their male counterparts, I suppose). It's hilarious</p>

<p>Even though I don't advocate behaving a certain way just to please people, I understand that your friend may not be ready yet ready to "come out." That said, I will give you some pointers, but keep in mind that people who have an excellent gaydar can still usually spot gay guys even when they act masculine. </p>

<p>I would suggest to him to be cautious of the way...</p>

<p>his eyes blink (especially when his eyes shift direction, i.e. the transition between looking down and looking straight forward), </p>

<p>his eyebrows move (are they raised all the time?), </p>

<p>his level of enthusiasm ("omg! omg!")-- sad but true</p>

<p>his voice tone. Many gay guys tend to feminize their voice by trying to manipulate their vocal chord. Some think their voice becomes gender-neutral when they do this, but it actually sounds very gay from the perspective of someone else. My advice: try to sound like Tom Brokaw</p>

<p>-the way his arms sway when he's walking. This is a big generalization but I've noticed that straight guys tend to be carefree and swing their entire arm, whereas gay guys swing only from the elbow down</p>

<p>-is your friend saying "dude" enough? Straight guys like to address their peers using "dude," "man," and "bro." So, instead of saying "thank you very much," say something more casual "thanks a lot, dude." Or instead of saying "hey Steve, what kinds of things have you been up to?" say "what's up, bro?" Basically, the point is that straight guys don't like to be touchy-feely with each other.</p>

<p>-Tell him to avoid situations where the guys sit down, look at pictures, and identify which girls are "hot"</p>

<p>check out girls' cleavage, and pretend like you are trying to get away with it. I don't know how many times I've been sighted for seemingly checking out a girls boobs, when all I was doing was trying to read her shirt... I think girls wear shirts with sayings on them so guys will notice their boobs. </p>

<p>Oh well, that's another story for another day.... anyways, just flirt with girls a lot and act like you are one of the dudes.</p>

<p>This is very sad. </p>

<p>And no, I'm not a guy. Tough.</p>

<p>I have a correction to make to my post: Vocal *cord (I typed chord)</p>

<p>Allie's concern is understandable. It is indeed sad that your friend has to put up a front in order to feel accepted.</p>

<p>First of all Mr. IHave13Posts, I'm seriously doubting the validity of your claim and am trying to decipher whether you're just a massive, mean troll or seriously this insensitive. </p>

<p>Second, I have a friend who is both gay and unwilling to admit it. It is absolutely painful to watch and I wish that he felt like he could be himself. I can't with good conscious condone a bunch of kids sitting around discussing how to make some poor gay kid pretend to be macho. Instead, if you were really his friend, you would tell him it's ok to be himself and that he shouldn't have to hide. Clearly you aren't man enough for that.</p>

<p>This is all BS...</p>

<p>Just be yourself. End of discussion.</p>

<p>Hey, I say if the guys to know how to act manly, then there's nothing wrong with helping him. As to how he wants to use this manliness...that's his business.</p>

<p>i wish more people would abide by the manlaws... especially the urinal one. why do you have to pee next to me when there's a empty stall two spots over?!</p>