Based on what you are looking for, George School (in PA) looks like it would be a fit. Math well beyond what your D would need (and a top math team), 3 levels of volleyball, service learning requirements, down to earth kids, academic rigor (and IB, if you like that - I do!), known for its "culture of kindness ", and a possible outlet for her media interests through an excellent film program. Community is a big deal. (
It doesn’t have sit down meals, is about 60/40 boarding day (but with 550 students, has a comparable boarding population with some on your list), and is known for generous FA. So hit or miss on that. Not an expensive sneaker school! (Students set up a thrift shop on campus to recycle their clothes and benefit charity.)?
As everyone here knows, I love George. It’s not clear, based on the schools on your list, whether your D would like it or not, but I think the experience there gives kids a lot of room to figure out who they are and how to be the best version of that. Definitely worth a look if you are building out your list.