<p>I agree with emraldkity4 and roshke, there must be an alternative situation that you can arrange so that your family (most of all your kids!) can have peace through the holidays without all of the excess baggage lingering from the past. </p>
<p>Here’s what I would do in your shoes: Talk to the kids and find out what they want to do. Try to come up with something that is realistically reasonable and extend an invitation to the parents as long as they stay civil with one another. Explain before what is needed for everyone to have a good time and listen to what they’re needs are as well. Come up with something as close to a win/ win situation and follow through with the plans revolving around the kids instead of the parents. If the parents want to come…GREAT. If not, that’s their choice and it won’t affect the kids as much.</p>