It really depends on the kid and what your family does for birthdays in general.
Our daughters are 30 and 27 and we do birthdays together since they live in town. D1’s bf planned her 30th birthday party in October and H and I were invited along with all of her friends. We went to her favorite local wine garden then on to dinner and ended the evening at a dueling piano bar. We did a separate family dinner on her actual birthday to give her all of her gifts.