Hey everyone! As you can see from the title, I’m not a freshman looking for advice… i’m one year down the line, and not much closer to feeling like i fit in at college.
The thing is I expected to be able to make friends easily like I have before, but it’s felt like I’ve met a ton of people temporarily and not been able to really make many connections with them. On top of that, it’s hard to find people I relate to or that are open to talk to someone new. I wish I rushed last year, and i’m pretty sure I’m rushing this fall (which may be more difficult but seems like it’ll be worth it).
I lived in East Quad last year without being in the RC, and the whole community (at least in my hall) was pretty closed off, and it was hard to get to know people. I like going out, so I’m not a bad fit for the social life here… it just doesn’t feel like I’ve met a group of people I can call close friends or people I really want to spend time with. I’ve made okay friends one-on-one, but not a good group of tight knit friends like high school or anything.
Also, after getting a mediocre GPA, i want to transfer out of science. It just feels like it’ll be dead end after undergrad unless I do some kind of medical degree, which i’m not sure is right for me. I’ve done several extracurriculars that I enjoyed but didn’t really connect with the people in any of them, and we’re busy enough meeting once a week let alone trying to meet in a casual setting.
Another thing is I want to get involved more on campus next year but I won’t actually be living on campus to save money. I’m planning on it junior year but things just didn’t work out for sophomore year, so I won’t be there overnight. This definitely complicates the issue, but I’m confident I can work around it. I just need some ideas for making the campus smaller for me.
Basically, I just want to be able to see all of the wonderful things about campus and Michigan that everyone else sees, but all of these things combined with just general school stress have made me start to hate college- and I don’t want that to be my state for the next three years.
Do you guys have any advice for me to really start enjoying college and pick up the pace this fall?
Maybe an attitude or action change that helped you out? It’s discouraging when everyone else seems to really be enjoying their year and I’m not sure where I went wrong.