Advice for Life

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<li>always unconditionally accept an apology from one of your peers</li>
<li>never demand an apology from one of your subordinates</li>
<li>never apologize unless you mean it</li>
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<p>agree? disagree? thoughts?</p>

2

<p>Why number 2? </p>

<p>I agree with number 3 definitely. And number 1 sometimes.</p>

3

<p>sometimes #3 is unavoidable.</p>

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<p>I agree with #2–only touchy-feely people who wear their emotions on their sleeves would actually be comforted by someone else’s apology. Strongly disagree with #3, though–you can use false apologies to your benefit.</p>

5

<p>Ya, #3 is difficult to follow.</p>

6

<p>Are we talking about a moral sense or a realistic sense?</p>

7

<p>People apologize for every little thing (such as bumping into someone). It’s so overly used that people don’t really think before they say it.</p>

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<p>I can’t help but disagree with number one because I hate it when people apologize to get an argument out of the way or get something off their backs. It’s one thing to sincerely apologize because one feels indebted to another for some reason, but it’s another thing completely to simply say a perfunctory “sorry” in order to evade the process of real emotional and mental change. If someone has a reason to apologize, it means they need to fix something.</p>

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to avoid forcing someone to break #3</p>

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both but i guess the hardest to follow realistically would be #3, especially as a public figure, but i feel like all three can be done realistically</p>

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i meant when one of your peers apologizes to you, accept his apology, you know, don’t be stubborn, don’t throw it back in his face, etc.</p>

10

<p>I disagree with all those. </p>

<p>To me, it depends on the situation. You can’t set any standards like that.</p>

11

<p>It’s all false :D</p>

12

<p>Follow that advice and you will become walked over. Sometimes hearing sorry from a peer is not enough given the situation. Sometimes you are justified in demanding an apology. Sometimes you have to say sorry, even if you don’t fully agree (compromises with girlfriends, for example?)</p>

<p>Again, you have to use your best judgment given the situation</p>