We all are now or have in the past gone through the process and can relate. Thank you for being so open in this cionversation. Wishing you and your daughter all the best going forward.
@PurpleTitan if you read my post, I asked for an explanation of the difference between the two majors. The OP had written that the difference in majors was a major reason to choose UCLA. I was just asking about that.
I guess what bothered me about this thread was that the OP presented as if the daughter could choose but at the same time influenced the daughter enough with parental preference that the daughter did, indeed, change her mind. It seems as if the whole thing could have been a little more straightforward.
Hope she is happy at UCLA. I’m sure she will be.
@compmom - The department, program and opportunities were stronger at one vs the other. UCLA has an undergrad business society club that will further support her getting internships and jobs. Considering she liked both schools, I absolutely felt at 130k she should choose the one that best fit her academic goals.
Avoiding the pandemic challenges was the icing on the cake. Now she doesn’t have the added anxiety all summer long wondering if she will be forced to taking online classes if housing isn’t available but in person classes are offered. I do not regret pointing out those things while she was trying to decide. I was, however, conflicted as to the extent I should get involved while feeling myself that her choice seemed obvious.
This thread helped me take a step back. It reminded me of the growth process that also comes with being allowed to make these types of decisions for the first time. In doing so, instead of laying down the law (so to speak), she had time to consult with her peers and weigh her options. In the end it worked out well for both of us. She seems more confident in her decision as well.
That’s good. I’m glad you are both happy. I think with the virus situation you are well within your rights to tell her what is best, honestly. I think that would have been fine. The argument about major and opportunities is less convincing, since undergrads change their minds. We have all faced situations similar to yours, I think.
Hope you all stay healthy and that the fall brings good things for your daughter, whether the virus is raging or dormant or gone, and for you.
With all due respect, I don’t understand why you’re bothered.
FWIW, I disagree with your take on this situation, but I’m certainly not bothered by it.
Frankly I think she handled it perfectly. But my opinion really doesn’t matter and you’re entitled to offer your opinion. In fact, that’s the value of this kind of forum; people get to hear a range of opinions.
How this parent or any other on this forum handles their situation is their personal business. It’s not for us to judge.
Just my 2 cents.