<p>My mom has decided that she no longer wishes to help me get down to my school on friday. This in part was due because i had apperently “snipped” at her (we were in walmart, i was checking out and trying to get my stuff into the cart while keeping an eye on what was being rang up, then she, without saying anything to me, started to place her items in when i told her that it was full. Then she took off saying that i was ungreatful and that she should just leave.). </p>
<p>I dont know what to do now. I have next to no money, i know no one…</p>
<p>Any ideas on what i should do? Outside of trying to convince her,i just dont know…</p>
<p>Your Mom will likely forgive you by midweek, so I think it’s a bit early to be searching for Plan B. But since you’re already obsessing about the POSSIBILITY, why not turn your angst into something positive? Approach the problem as if you’d been given money for the trip … but had lost it. Your Mom can’t be the ONLY person on earth who cares for you. You can’t be the ONLY student headed in that direction on Friday.</p>
<p>It is quite possible that your mom has other things going on in her life, and this was the straw that broke the camel’s back. Even adults can act out. It’s also possible that you have been acting a bit … well … irresponsible or lazy or annoying or something else (just thinking of all the things I have thought about my S over the summer! And I love him despite it all). Talk to your mom. Tell her that you are sorry about what happened, and tell her that you don’t want it to ruin your last few days together before you go away to school. Let her know how much it means to you to have her go with you to the school … don’t tell her she is your only ride! … tell her you want her to be there with you when you go off to school.</p>
<p>Talk to your mom and let her know you’re a bit stressed now and, if you snipped at her, apologize. We moms are usually pretty quick to forgive.</p>
<p>Wait until tomorrow when things are calmed down somewhat and then apologize to her for ‘snipping’ at her and then ask her if she’ll get you to college and if not, if she has any ideas of how you can get there. She’ll probably take you.</p>
<p>I have apologized, she said that sorry doesnt cut it.</p>
<p>Let me guess… she was probably the one who was going to pay for the cart full of stuff, right? My guess is that you should be more grateful. Either apologize sincerely, or take a look at the bus schedule and prepare to pay for your own ticket. Call a cab to get to the bus station if you need to.</p>
<p>No, i was paying for it.</p>
<p>My bet is that your mother is simply feeling emotional about your leaving, in addition to other stresses in her life, and will come round. Especially if you initiate a real talk with her. I remember haw my S veered between being loving and being a royal pain during the summer before college. But I can’t imagine actually not taking him. But just in case…Time to hit the Facebook page for you school and see if anyone else is going there from your area. And explore public transportation options. See if you have a friend with a car who would help you for gas money.</p>
<p>If your mom is actually willing to forgo taking you to college, she’s not like any mother <em>I</em> know.</p>
<p>I’m not completely understanding the story but I definitely get the feeling that there is more to it than that one incident. Just seeing that you have been on CC since 2009 leads me to guess that this isn’t your first freshman departure. It is hard to really understand what is going on. In general it sounds like" I’m sorry" may not be enough for your mom because she may want to vent or convey more to you about what she is feeling. If it is possible to have a calm conversation with her in which you convey an interest in understanding why she is so upset and you and if you can find it within yourself to just listen and not defend it could go a long way. Is there a reason that she might have for not wanting to take you and she is jumping on this as an out? I mean something along the lines of concern about missing work etc? I will second what was stated above, it is very meaningful for a parent to hear that their child wants them to be there. If you are feeling that and can convey it that could go a long way toward fixing this. If this is really just about this one incident then I would guess the stress of the moment and transition was getting to her and possibly to you as well. I expect it will blow over if you can take a little time to understand each other. If this is just scratching the surface of a difficult dynamic between the two of you then you probably need to be exploring your alternatives. Good Luck, and even if you have to delay do what you can to get on with your education.</p>
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You may need to give it a day or two to blow over a bit and then see where you stand.</p>
<p>I’ve got to say, I don’t understand why your mother would even say what she did about not taking you to school. If she actually means it (and it’s likely she doesn’t but I don’t know your mom) it doesn’t make any sense for anyone including her and she needs to look at the big picture here. Parents should know better than to make some of these drastic statements.</p>
<p>I also don’t understand your statement that you have no money - not even enough to get to school. If that’s true then what’ll you do while you’re at school? You’ll likely need some spending money to at least buy notebooks, personal items, etc.</p>
<p>If she truly doesn’t intend to take you to school then you should figure out how to get there. What about your father taking you? What about a relative? What about a friend or a neighbor? What about a bus or a train or a plane?</p>
<p>Again, the statement from your mom doesn’t make any sense even if you were snipping at her and acting ungrateful but parents can make snippy emotional statements they shouldn’t just like their kids do. I think there’s a good chance your mom will take you unless there’s a lot more going on with your mother that’s not normal.</p>
<p>I don’t know what’s going on with you and your mother or if it’s out of the ordinary for your relationship, so I would follow the first person’s advice and treat it as though that were all the case.</p>
<p>I hope you can patch up things with your mom and get her to take you, but if you can’t . . . how about looking on Craigslist and seeing if you can find someone to travel with?</p>