advice needed please.....

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<p>I think i screwed up and now my mom is mad at me…Heres the story:</p>

<p>I was taking a shower this moring and she came barging in. She said she knocked, but i couldn’t hear it (our shower has alot of pressure and you cannot hear very well over it). She then proceeds to leave the door open while getting her stuff (I didn’t know what she was doing, and if i had known about her wanting to get into the bathroom before i took the shower, i would have let her use it and then would have taken one). I was asking her to get out of the bathroom or at least shut the door(she was letting in all the cold air). Then she went on about she was looking for something (I can’t remember what she said exactly) and then she said i should stop complaining. I then told her to shut up (she wasn’t listening to me at all) to which she ignored. She then left afterwards.</p>

<p>She told me not to say it again and as a punishment, i had to completely clean the bathroom (which i did).</p>

<p>Then later on tonight she went on rambleing, about how she was done and fed up and she wouldn’t be helping me with college anymore (to which she promised to do) and that she wouldn’t take me to the airport in 9 days to go out to visit my dads.</p>

<p>Here is the thing: She and my dad are devorced and he doesn’t give a damn about helping me pay for college. She says that she doesn’t want to ruin her credit (it was bad to begin with, but it was improving). She has been fight over stuff with my dad for a long time now (they’re devoriced and he wasn’t paying what the court ordered him to pay). She has major back problems and i know she had taken her pain medication for it (it makes her loopy) and i don’t know if she was talking seriously or not. She said she would make up her mind in the morning.</p>

<p>I am a good kid I always have been. I’m 19 (i know, i should have a job and such but i don’t) and i have a very hard time doing things (i have both adhd and asperger’s syndrome). I do try to help out around the house as payment for staying here (grooming the dog, doing yardwork, etc.). </p>

<p>What do i do? I’ve tried apologizing, and she said it means nothing anymore.</p>

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<p>It sounds as though your Mom is frustrated, tired, and overwhelmed with what is going on in her life right now. She doesn’t have it easy. She’s probably doing the best she can both emotionally and financially. Give her some time to rest and calm down.</p>

<p>Tomorrow is a new day.</p>

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<p>I’m glad you realize that some of her behavior is due to money concerns and health problems. Cut your mom some slack, she is under a lot of pressure and medication does affect behavior. Nine days is some time away. By then, both of you will have moved on.</p>

<p>Can you take on more of the chores around the house since you are not working, besides doing yardwork and grooming the dog? do the dishes, vacuum the house, do the laundry…Do one chore per day (except the dishes which you should do every day). It should not take long at all. I’m sure your mom would appreciate your helpfulness and your sense of responsibility.</p>

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<p>I do do all of that as well. </p>

<p>She isn’t mad at me anymore :)</p>

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<p>Whew! I’m sure she does appreciate all the help you can offer with the chores while you’re at her place and it’s good practice for caring for yourself at college. Hope things improve for her (& you). :)</p>