<p>So currently, I’m a College Junior (with Super senior credits) and I plan to graduate by 2014. However, a very pressing issue is developing when it comes to these twins I used to be friends with. Two years ago, I befriended a pair of twins who seemed nice enough, even on the more timid side, but as we got to know them better we realised that they weren’t as true as they placed themself out to be. Because these twins didn’t get along with their other quadmates, my current roommate and I decided to live in a quad with these twins because they also didn’t get along sharing a room together. To the point where they couldn’t stand eachother and constantly fight. However, as the semester was ending Twin B (who I’d be rooming with) had been spreading rumors about me and badmouthing me, and I for a while I even believed that I was as bad as she described me. I was such a good friend to her that I used to walk her to her dorm all the way across campus, in winter, at 4am because she didn’t feel “safe”. Within the last week of school, in the middle of club event that we were both at she broke down saying she was suicidal and that I made everyone hate her, even though there wasn’t anything prior that I really had done (she just had really bad attitude to our friends a few days ago), she was being overdramatic and not even the boy she liked paid no mind to her high pitched wailing. But we didn’t talk for the rest of the semester and I was worried about what would play out next year when I’d be living with her.
Now next year, she acts as if nothing happened and the whole first semester is OKAY. But over time little quirks work on eachother, so it got to the point where a lot of tension had built up in the quad, and my best friend and I figured we should hold a “family meeting” with our also affected friends to square things out. At last minute Twin B made a rule saying no boyfriends could be part of the meeting though (Because she knows her bf would be mad if he found out how she talked about him). Anyway, it seemingly goes well, she made up a lot of obvious lies about her actions, but I dismissed it assuming this bull would be over. It just ended making it worse though, because she immediately ran to her boyfriend crying saying I turned all my friends against her and that I made her suicidal again. But I just kinda moved on, did my thing and laughed with my friends. For the remainder of the semester though, I wouldn’t talk to Twin B, treated her respectfully, and would keep away from keeping the situation as awkward as possible. It was almost irrational about how concious I was about “behaving” for this girl. But because nothing bad was happening to me, she began running around to mutual acquaintances and having long walks with them about how cruel I had been to her, and how I did such terrible things to her and threatened her sister (Twin A and I didn’t really talk so she didn’t like me either). I started noticing less and less people really hanging out with me but it’s just a small thorn in my side.
One night, while she was at work (until 2am) I texted her saying I needed the room. She threatened me saying she was going to report me to the RA if I didn’t ask her nicely, but I never wrote back. The next day, a full bottle of my favorite body spray in the common room went missing and I never found it, and the TV cable was ripped out of the wall (it was my TV and cable). I didn’t report the stolen items because I didn’t want the situation getting out of hand again, and for a while I tried convincing myself that I had lost my body spray. But on the last day of school/move out day, I get a long text from my good roommate about how Twin B was yelling at her for using her and her sister’s swiffer (even though Twin A let her) and reported my roommate and I to the RA for stealing. I never touched the swiffer and in a panic my other roommate admitted she used it (but it was taken as if she stole the swiffer). My roommate was instantly put on probation, and nothing happened to me. When my parents came to pick me up from school, Twin B instantly ran out of the room while my parents were joking with my boyfriend. I didn’t pay much mind to it, but two hours later, on the road home (I was driving). I got a phone call from UPD saying that Twin A and B filed a no contact report on me for harassment and threatening their safety. I wasn’t even there when the call was reported and now if I come into any contact (direct or indirect) I’d be arrested on the spot. I’m mostly mad and confused because it was exactly like what happened the year before and this big issue exploded from nothing. But I don’t even know what to do. I wasn’t anywhere in the area and there was no proof of anything. In fact, these girls are more dangerous than I am because they carry multiple knives on them on campus, and even threaten people with them! And I know they’re going to try to bully me with this no contact charge because we have mutual friend groups that I hang out with the most. This is my last year at college, and this can really set me back if things get out of hand or I get caught in a trap or kicked out of school. I don’t know what can be done if I want to be able to get around campus comfortably, I don’t want to live in fear with their manipulative powers. </p>
<pre><code> I’m sorry this is so long and dramatic, but it really bothers me that they’d get the police involved. And I feel like UPD not giving me a chance to speak for myself is discrimination against me. I have never been arrested, had any involement in any crimes. This is the first interaction I’ve ever had with any kind of federal authority.
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It really does calm me down and allow me to view this dilemma from a distance. And actually come to a much safer and maybe even quicker solution. For the most part I’ll just keep to myself as I’ve been doing, but at least I know that the reality of this no-contact order by legal definition does not exist. Good thing I’m taking Business Law this year! :P</p>