@4kids4us – Thanks for sharing your story. That sounds like it was hard, and I’m so glad it worked out for her. Agreed sorority rush is even more treacherous. My D had two friends at larger colleges go through that this semester – it worked out for them but was nerve wracking.
It does seem most folks agree on her giving it a chance. But she’ll need to get over her mental block to do so. She realizes it’s her – not them – so that’s good. This house seems to being going through a bit of a rough patch, perhaps, which is why it had more open spots this year (at least that’s the rumor) but I’m certain there are some perfectly great women she could get to know better if she stays.