<p>I’m 18 Am Attending Farmingdale State College I can get into better Schools that are not much more money Tuition Wise, possibly Less If I go to the better school, my family will cut all contact with me.
They claim they want me to be my own man, but it turns out, they don’t want me to take any advice from friends, and Just want me to follow them Word For Word. They originally were forcing me to do Nursing, and still bring it up
I only want to go to the Better School because of the Engineering Program, which is what I want to do, NOT nursing</p>
<p>I would have to be on financial aid either way</p>
<p>Please speak with your family reasonably and ask for the specific reasons they do not want you to go. Listen to their reasonable concerns and calmly refute the more unreasonable claims. Go to a family guidance counselor if a common ground cannot be reached. Cutting off contact with a child purely for attending a different college, particularly if money and behavior will not be impacted, is not appropriate or healthy. Ultimately you are an adult, and may have to make some tough, independent decisions. </p>
<p>Then I wish you good luck with that. I still recommend finding a counselor, etc. at your current school you can get guidance from as you move forward.</p>
<p>I went through a similar process during my senior year of high school, albeit different circumstances as it was due to my agreement to contract with the US Army ROTC at my college and accept my scholarship at the college and pursue a military career. I got the boot from the family, but what I did have though, was a contingency plan. Lucky for me tuition was not an issue, the hardest part though was being able to have in touch with resources such as where to live. As long as you have the three biggies, food, water, shelter You should be secure. Do not, I repeat, DO NOT be afraid to speak with the counselors though. You counselors are not just there for academics, they are there to help you be successful in your walk of life when you exit the doors. DO NOT also be afraid to seek help from the school psychologist or any service aids. Honestly, and personally, I felt like I was a “weak man” and I was gonna toughen it out and be a “man”. I realized that it is a hard choice, and preparing to have to leave my home, it was difficult. They have exceptional people, don’t be afraid to open up to them. </p>
<p>I’ve also had the great fortune and chance to have been able to stay with a high school teacher for temporary living during my last year as a senior in high school, and was offered by many teachers to stay at their place if I needed to. I wasn’t afraid to admit that I was going through hard times, and I didn’t want them to be disappointed in me academically because I was a top academic student, as I emailed them. I had a great amount in resources.</p>
<p>But before you get all these grand ideas and such. Make sure you get stuff squared away. DO seek guidance at your school, and maybe they can help facilitate a conversation with your folks. You might be able to see eye-to-eye because of your age, but having level headed adults speaking, it may make things better. But yes, have a contingency. </p>