Age difference

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<p>Not willing to generalize that girls are more mature than boys but willing to generalize that 1 year older and not out of HS is a hard fast rule? ;)</p>

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<p>My 16 yr. old daughter doesn’t find guys her age so attractive either, and that’s OK with me, because that means she doesn’t date.</p>

<p>I’m with uc x 2 dad (a guy who has raised two daughters): no guys out of high school, and no guys about to graduate from high school if they are more than a year older. </p>

<p>Also, I would find it a bit unsettling if my college student son wanted to date a 16 yr. old girl.</p>

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<p>I’ve never been in favor of generalized rules when it comes to parenting issues. Even if I wanted to, as the mom of 4 girls, I can’t generalize a rule for this situation. In my experience, it truly does depend on the kid.</p>

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<p>Size of the dad’s gun collection/size of the date’s eyes the dad shows him.</p>

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<p>^^LOL, SofO! We have no guns, but H’s “german” accent and mean looks scared away many perspective BFs (they just assume there must be a gun collection somewhere).</p>

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<p>in high school you can’t date any one out of high school.</p>

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so, do you break them up as soon as one of them graduates, no questions asked?</p>

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<p>Pretty much.
actually hasn’t been an issue- my girls are too busy for romance while in school.
It’s not hard to arrange ;)</p>

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<p>I’m with EK on this one. The issue is moot - as soon as one graduates, the romance is usually over on its own. No “German” dads needed :)</p>

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<p>I was smug too, until it happened to me. emerald, you tempt the fates.</p>

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<p>Let’s see…</p>

<p>26/2 = 13
13+7 = 20</p>

<p>I guess I can only date 20 year olds???</p>

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this definitely was not our experience…</p>

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<p>16 year old girl? Up to 25.</p>

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<p>^ LOL, what formula are YOU using?? Why 25? Why not 23 or 27?</p>

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<p>Keshira, if you were my 16-yr old, my H would have beaten the cr@p out of that 25-yr old BF wannabe! Seriously. No more than 1 grade level, and no more than 1-yr in age diffrence, as our experience tells.</p>

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<p>there could be legal ramifications if one is a legal adult.I think it is better that they both are on the same side of 18.</p>

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<p>EK, when it comes to sex, in our state a 16-yr old has the same say as an 18-yr old. 15-yr old - different story. D’s 18-yr old BF wannabe researched this issue, and was told to stay away from her (with stern “German” accent).</p>

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<p>I was thinking more drinking, smoking, signing papers.
D only has a month till she is 18 anyway & I have not heard her talk about boys for a long time- she does have one that she writes- but he lives 7400 miles away…for now.</p>

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<p>zoosermom - our Ds are about the same age, and I think up to 2 years age difference is fine. In fact D’s BF is two years older than she is, and they have been together for over a year now.</p>

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<p>Zoosermom: Do you want to share the particulars of what led you to ask the question??</p>