<p>^^^^I love your self confidence! Do you realize that you and your friend “broke” a cardinal rule of dressing? You, gulp, tried on the same dress!!! And you didn’t care. In fact you embraced each other and the differences between the two of you.</p>
<p>You go ladies!</p>
<p>A big round of applause, romanigipsyeyes! (This whole paddling business smells like Spanish Inquisition to me.)</p>
<p>Haha thanks guys… and no, elle, I actually didn’t know about that rule :o. I don’t actually do that whole dress-shopping thing … ever. (I actually bought my prom dress off ebay for $10 three weeks before prom).</p>
<p>This story just really got under my skin.</p>
<p>This thread reminds me of the “thong check” scandal in San Diego county some years ago. [SignOnSanDiego.com</a> > News > North County – Rancho Bernardo High official suspended over underwear inspection](<a href=“http://legacy.signonsandiego.com/news/northcounty/20020501--n75890.html]SignOnSanDiego.com”>http://legacy.signonsandiego.com/news/northcounty/20020501--n75890.html)
Same sense of perversion.</p>
<p>My daughter attended a Catholic high school and I had some disagreements with the regulations and dress codes, but since we had chosen to send her there and we could have pulled her out at any time, I pretty much kept my mouth shut. But if paddling, PADDLING (as in that thing from the last century), had ever even been mentioned it would have been a different story. And to think it still exists in public high schools!</p>
<p>Do the boys in Alabama get paddled if they show up with pants that are too tight?</p>
<p>^ Haha ghost, I would have said none. Then refused to show her (as that would be indecent exposure) and last I remember, no one can force you to do anything illegal. Disgusting. </p>
<p>And I doubt the boys were subjected to anything like this. As I said, it’s very sexist.</p>
<p>My dear, I am a black belt shopper…highest degree possible. There are “rules” and rules to be broken. (My personal favorite, “If you wore it the first time around, you are too old to wear it again.”–think a mini skirt on a 55 year old woman. Not a pretty sight.) My youngest is a fervent fashionista. She could tie her shoes at 18 months…and yes, like the song wore polka dots checks and stripes to nursery school. Both my girls have wonderful different styles that speaks to the place and time in their lives. And we love to shop together. And one time only a bozo teacher picked on my oldest because in a non airconditioned classroom on a 90 degree day she wore a spaghetti strap shirt. And she wasn’t the only one, but she was picked on.</p>
<p>Shall we just say that the teacher never opened her mouth again?</p>
<p>Actually boys pants are too loose, no a pretty sight…especially when the underwear is showing.</p>
<p>Hehe. I think I go to the mall MAYBE twice a year. Most of my clothes were free from shows or gifts. I don’t remember the last time I actually tried something on in a store. It’s pretty funny when I go shopping because I’m always dismayed at how much things cost and then my friends make fun of me because I’m complaining about the prices on the CLEARANCE rack. </p>
<p>The funny thing is, I used to model. But fashion is definitely NOT my thing.</p>
<p>Don’t think you are safe when you go through college, get a PhD, and become a professor.</p>
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<p>*mom2–realize you are kidding, but I have trouble with your “I’d be a walking felony” comment… imho it reinforces that if a girl shows cleavage or looks seductive, she is responsible for bad behavior. *</p>
<p>How do I do the rolling eyes icon???</p>
<p>(It means that I would look like a hooker!)</p>
<p>It’s just the @ sign (as if you were typing <a href="mailto:xxx@xxx.com">xxx@xxx.com</a>). Here you go!! @@
(I understood your “walking felony” comment.)</p>
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<p>That seems a little excessive. Can we at least agree that college professors should be treated like mature adults?</p>
<p>She looks sweet. Seriously, that seems more like a Disney princess costume than a prom dress. My girls and I love to laugh at the tacky prom dress catalogs that come in the mail. This girl has nothing on the dental-floss strings and precariously placed cut-outs on some dresses. The principal is way out of line.</p>
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<p>First off, I certainly hope she is going to work that shoe-tying angle into her college application! It’s a hook. Second, my DD also had a firm sense of fashion that included only wearing her brother’s clothes for a while in the preschool era, then switching to a pink-only phase, and then transitioning into a neon phase and there were stripes and so forth along the way. Her acute sense of what she would and wouldn’t wear has stayed with her. When she became very busty on top, I (who am average in size) worried about the whole cleavage thing and she set me straight that she had nothing to be ashamed of and that she wasn’t going to sacrifice wearing clothes she liked. She has never had a problem because she’s a modest girl in character and guys realize that right away. You can show nothing but if your attitude is one of flaunting your sexuality, guys will pick up on that, and you can wear a modest outfit that still shows cleavage and not be flaunting sexuality if your attitude is one of “I’m comfortable with who I am, deal with it and respect me because that’s what I deserve.”</p>
<p>I admire your daughter mimK! and you for supporting her to be who she is… we’ve found the same here…</p>
<p>Can we at least agree that college professors should be treated like mature adults?</p>
<p>Hahaha!</p>
<p>obviously you have never attended a tenure review meeting!</p>
<p>I have not. I loved college, but I could never work at one! </p>
<p>Still, spanking? Really!? The article I read was really short and barely qualified as a piece of writing, but I don’t think that there’s ever any call for an employer to spank an employee and chant that she is “a bad girl”. Much was made about how porno-esque the Alabama article was, but this one actually even has cheesy dialogue accompaniment!</p>
<p>It’s all too strange to be true…both stories. Reminds me of an episode of “what not to wear” and the too tight, too small, too short, too much exposed skin mantra. At least Clinton and Stacey don’t “paddle” the offenders.</p>
<p>she set me straight that she had nothing to be ashamed of and that she wasn’t going to sacrifice wearing clothes she liked</p>
<p>Good for her.
You must have given her support for getting a strong sense of herself.</p>
<p>My oldest is very small boned and very busty & in high school, she wore baggy tshirts- & jeans with holes from where the ponies bit- now she dresses better- but has a limited budget without time to shop around, so she wears what she finds at consignment- so it is hit and miss.</p>
<p>My younger daughter who never had a pink and purple stage and went years ( pretty much till high school), till she wore a dress, * knows* what she likes and doesn’t like.
She is more stunning than I would think could be related to me, but I admit I occasionally wondered if that would be the case when she was grown, after seeing the photos of now, very beautiful models and actresses, who were plain or androgynous looking when they were children.</p>
<p>I am often asked if she models & I just laugh, cause she wouldn’t even let * me* take a picture of her, let alone have people poke and prod her all day.</p>
<p>She does have pictures of herself at prom and of her friends and I think all the girls look appropriate, most have long dresses, some are cut to between the breasts, but the breasts themselves are covered- I think they all look great!.</p>
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<p>That’s what I thought after seeing the dress. Puffy princess tutu. Silly - yes. Sex symbol - hardly. It is possible the girl did not completely grow out of her princess stage 
The dress was definitely a silly choice and a wrong size, too, but should anyone who makes a silly dress choice be paddled for it?!</p>
<p>At least Stacey and Clinton try to maximize (sorry, no pun intended…well, maybe it was) one’s better features. They have never said to be ashamed of one’s body parts, just to package it (them) correctly. Notice, I didn’t say that the dress was fabulous, nor did I say it was too revealing. One has the right to make a fashion faux pas or a slight indescretion, but never to be paddled for the infraction. Perhaps a bit of parental eye rolling…</p>
<p>No, my daughter didn’t talk about her shoe typing in her app, although she certainly should have. I suspect she will be a stylist or a costumer when she graduates from school. She is taking a course in fashion now in her communications major, and she thinks her professor is way lame and way out of date.</p>