<p>pizzagirl & mom2collegekids:</p>
<p>:rolleyes: : rolleyes : without the spaces between the colons & the word.</p>
<p>I am an educator and parent. The dress chosen by this graduate may show too much of a bustline but should it not be the decision of the parent and young adult? As for the length of the dress, it hardly seems inappropriate! The response of the school and community is outrageous. It is a beautiful dress!</p>
<p>I attended my prom last year and wore a dress with a “V” neck. It was a fairly deep “V” but was deemed appropriate by the Catholic high school which I attended. It also had a completely open back until the bottom of my ribcage (the dress had spaghetti straps that attached around my neck through panels to hold the front up). It was however, floor length.</p>
<p>As a Catholic school, we wore uniforms when in school, with the exception of certain days, and were given a dress code. It was simple to follow and was fairly liberal considering the fact that we were a fairly conservative religious school. Girls were not allowed to wear shorts that allowed anything inappropriate to be seen, which is completely within reason, and were preferred to be at least 5" below the crotch. If they did not comply, they had the choice of leaving the prom or wearing pants supplied by the school from the lost and found or gym department (the school was lenient however, and they were permitted to take them off for the pictures by the professional photographer). The dress in question does not seem too short in my opinion. I prefer longer skirts, however that also has to do with my height. Standing at slightly over 6", I feel a short skirt makes me look ‘slutty’, however my best friend stands at 4’11" and looks wonderful in shorter skirts and they make her look taller.</p>
<p>As for the cleavage issue, our regulation was that the top of the dress was not allowed to be so low as to possibly allow anything to fall out or to show any nipple, however, they were warned to keep an eye on themselves if their cleavage was near this point but not yet there. The dress I wore had a neckline where the “V” ended just below my breast line to allow for a tighter band of beading, however, being uncomfortable with the cleavage, I simply had 3-4 stitches put into the fabric in order to close it slightly. It costs essentially nothing and is easy to do. I was also worried about meeting dress code, due to the fact that I am NOT flat as a board, mind you, I am by no means well-endowed. If the cleavage was too low, they were given a black shrug that was able to be tied in front. Students from our fashion class were given the option to make them for extra credit and the students returned them at the end of the evening. They were small enough to allow most details of the dress to be seen, however large enough to cover the cleavage area.</p>
<p>I agree with some of the previous statements that the situation seems sexist, based on the fashion of young men to wear their pants much lower than they were meant to be worn. In our situation, to make things fair, boys were supplied with belts if their pants would not sit at the appropriate level.</p>
<p>As for “paddling”, I think this is barbaric, medieval and agree with previous statements that this seems to be someone’s twisted pornographic fantasy. I live in Canada, and such a custom would not be allowed in any region of the country. I have also lived in Britain and Scotland and have attended some very strict private schools in my lifetime, however, this custom seems completely inappropriate and I have never seen it in practice. </p>
<p>I for one am proud of this young lady’s strength in not allowing herself to be humiliated in this way, as opposed to the decision made by her classmates. I think that in allowing someone to punish you in such a way, you are going against you rights as a free human, and that by willingly allowing yourself to be touched in this way, you are also learning that it is alright for something like this to happen in disciplinary circumstances throughout the rest of your life. Should they be placed in an abusive situation (relationship for instance) where they are being verbally AND physically abused, if their partner makes them feel that they are in the wrong, they will very likely justify the physical abuse as being deserved as punishment.</p>
<p>I would never let a person lay a hand on me, regardless of whether or not they were supposed to be ‘in charge’ of me or in a position of control and I am proud of this girl for her values.</p>
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<p>This made me laugh so out loud I just had to repeat it.</p>
<p>“I for one am proud of this young lady’s strength in not allowing herself to be humiliated in this way, as opposed to the decision made by her classmates. I think that in allowing someone to punish you in such a way, you are going against you rights as a free human, and that by willingly allowing yourself to be touched in this way, you are also learning that it is alright for something like this to happen in disciplinary circumstances throughout the rest of your life. Should they be placed in an abusive situation (relationship for instance) where they are being verbally AND physically abused, if their partner makes them feel that they are in the wrong, they will very likely justify the physical abuse as being deserved as punishment.”</p>
<p>Bravo Premed4western—what an important insight about abusive relationships. I am proud of the fact that you can also applaud this young woman for what really matters. You have learned things that took many of us much longer to learn…</p>