Am I correct for being upset? (about vacation)

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<p>I’m so angry/sad right now. My family owns a company and we all work there and have another non-family employee (there is 4 total, including me). Well, today we were finally trying to decide on a date so everyone can start booking trips and all that jazz. I admit that I am part time, but I have been there since I was 12. I am also part of the family, therefore I should be included in the family vacation. </p>

<p>I made a list of all the date ranges that I won’t be in school so that I wouldn’t miss out on anything. My brother pretty much told me that my opinion doesn’t matter because I’m part-time and I have to take off a lot of days (it’s all school related. I can’t take all my classes after 6:00). It really hurt my feelings because I’m basically being screwed on another vacation.</p>

<p>My brother and the employee agreed on either mid-July (I’d have to miss my graduation and all the senior stuff to go, and then I’d have to come back and take my finals), or around July 4 (I’ll be in college and I’d have to miss 2 classes and I’m sure I’d have a test at least one of those days and I’d miss all the notes and since it’s short term, it would actually be equal to 4-6 classes I missed), or in September (once again I will be in college).</p>

<p>I have never had a good vacation. When I was little, we went camping. I was extremely allergic to mosquitos and very sensitive to the sun, so I couldn’t spend much time outside. When I was older, we went to Six Flags, I was too short so all I got to do was walk around and watch my family have fun. Then the next few years, my dad was very sick and we were financially, physically, and health-wise unable to go anywhere. After that, I got to go visit my family and babysit during my whole vacation. Recently, my mom has been going on these awesome vacations and I’ve had to stay home the whole time (no transportation, visitors, or leaving the house w/o my bro’s permission–he wouldn’t let me leave). My mom has been telling me that this year she will take me somewhere nice like Mexico. Now she’s backed out of that and says that I can go somewhere ~100 miles away from home with my friends for one day (no staying there) but an adult would need to go (she has since said no to that too). </p>

<p>I have never had a vacation that I had the least bit of fun and now I’m being kicked out of my own family vacation and told that my opinion doesn’t matter at all. I started crying and now I’m the big bad whiner and everyone is very angry.</p>

<p>I really just don’t know what to do now. I’m so tired of being blown off and excluded from everything. It really hurts that I was told that I don’t matter and it’s too bad that I’m going to be in school. My mom isn’t willing to stand up for me either. It wouldn’t be so bad if nobody was going, but I’d be the only one staying here. I really feel like I’m being penalized for trying to succeed in life (especially since my brother didn’t go to college, but that was his own choice). I’m almost to the point of saying to completely forget about college because I’m just so ready to get away from my family.</p>

<p>Sorry this was so long! Am I wrong for being mad about being excluded from my own family graduation (I am the graduating one) trip?</p>

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<p>no you’re not wrong for being upset. i wish i could think of something better to say than that though.</p>

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<p>Did I read this right ? Your family is going away during your high school graduation, and they think you are a whiner because you are upset ?</p>

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<p>it’s alright to feel upset about how things are not working out, but please dont say ‘completely forget about college’. I would think life’s more fun there.</p>

<p>i feel the same as megan… hopefully a better plan will fit in later.</p>

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<p>you should link them to this thread.
or get a friend to do it for you.
chances are they see it completely differently and they have no idea you feel this way.
other than that…good luck, i hope things work out.</p>

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Thats one of the possible dates. They are now leaning more towards doing it while I’m in college in September so that instead of missing ~2 days of 2 classes, I’d miss 5 days of 5 classes. </p>

<p>They just really don’t understand how college works. They said that I could go tell the teacher that I will be gone those days and ask for my work. It doesn’t work like that. All they really understand is that I can miss class and not get into trouble. I think that missing 2 labs, 3 days of chem & calc, and then all my other classes would be an extremely bad idea and then I’d probably flunk out of the class due to being behind and getting zero’s on the tests I missed.</p>

<p>I think that my main deal is that I really want my mom to stand up for me and say that we are going to go when I am able to. I already got the employee to say “whatever, we’ll go when she wants to”, but I know he’s mad about it because he decided that he was picking this year. I know that he is going on vacation with his family, but they can literally go anytime as long as they give 1 months notice.</p>

<p>I’m also upset because now my mom is saying that maybe we could go to Texas sometime. I’ve already been there and it’s not like we’d be going to the beach. We would be going so that she could go shopping and then complain about how expensive the things I want are (as she spends 5x as much on herself).</p>

<p>My brother also says that I don’t deserve a vacation because I hardly work. I think that if I am promised something, that I should get it, and besides, he’s not much better than I am about going to work!</p>

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I’ve told my mom how I feel and she just tells me that she never got a vacation when she was a kid. She always throws that type of stuff in my face, but it’s not my fault that her mom was stupid with money and spent most of it bailing her brother out of jail, not to mention, my mom got married at 16. I don’t get why she says she doesn’t want to be like her mother and then says that stuff about her mother not doing it for her.</p>

<p>The thing that really sucks is that I was really close with my dad before he died, and I haven’t ever really got along well with my mom. My dad would never be ok with how I am being treated by my mom and brother.</p>

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<p>Wow, sorry okgirl…
Your brother sounds like a PITA.
When my daughter was a junior in hs, we took a family vacation to Sweden. It was to attend my mother in-laws 70th birthday. It was not up to us to decide when the trip would take place. It happened to coincide with her prom, which we didn’t want to force her to miss ( it is not her grandmother, but her step-grandmother ) We let her decide and she opted to stay with her friend and attend her prom.
I still to this day feel guilty about going on the trip without her… cried on the phone when she was getting dressed and the other parents were taking pics. She was fine with it, but I really felt like crap.
I think that it is hard to get together for family vaca’s with all of the conflicting schedules now.
I hope you can resolve the matter, but if not I think you have every right to feel upset about this matter.
Best of luck to you.</p>

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<p>and the big deal is…?</p>