<p>This is a question that I have wanted to ask someone for a long time. In fact, I made this account on CC just so I could ask it. I’ll have to admit, it is sort of odd:</p>
<p>Am I the only one who doesn’t go to school to make my parents happy?</p>
<p>What I mean is, am I the only one who works hard and has goals in life, just for myself, and NOT for my parents? Am I the only one who wants to succeed, for myself only? </p>
<p>This may seem very arrogant-- that I’m blaming my parents for where I am now. Yes, my parents are raising me, yes, they pay for all of my expenses, and yes they will pay for the school I go to in the future. But I feel like they have failed me.
All these years I have looked with envy at other kids who have parents that are proactive about their child’s education. My parents never really helped me in my education, and because of that I have fallen behind my peers in recent years. Now I am a sophomore in high school and I am being forced to make up for that. I’m not the kind of kid that can do everything on my own. When I needed help when I was so young, I never got it. </p>
<p>I have accomplished some great things in recent years. My parents had no part in any of it. I feel like they don’t deserve any credit for what I’ve done in school.
Again, this may seem arrogant, but that it not my intent.</p>
<p>Yep, there is no bigger advantage in education than having proactive parents, and you are behind because of it. The good news is that with determination and perseverance, you can catch up on your own. The bad news is that it will take a lot of hard work to dig yourself out from under. Do what it takes, remedial classes etc, but with hard work and enough time spent, you don’t have to stay behind. GL</p>
<p>Talk to your parents about your academics. Set a clear plan for the rest of your high school. Spend your time well. Work hard and you will not have fallen behind the “average” student in your school. Finally, EMBRACE the independence and freedom your parents have given you and use them WELL. You may not be bound to enter med school or law school, but develop a true passion of your own. You will not be bound by what your parents believe in, but what YOU see in the world.</p>
<p>Honestly, they’re probably trying their best but keeping a job and having at least one kid can be difficult. It’s more likely that they prefer to give you some independence. And trust me, you’re not the only one. My parents don’t typically push me to try harder or help me with work unless I get something below a 90 and my mother tells me I can do better (although I do push myself of my own accord, so they don’t have to). The point is that they’re allowing you to be an independent person so that you won’t be one of those sniveling brats who goes to college and complains about their parents not being there to help them. Blaming them is a waste of time that could be spent on catching up. Just try your best and you’ll do fine! ^_^</p>
<p>Nope you are not the only one. I am an immigrant so my parents don’t even speak English well enough to have ever helped me with any homework. They never really asked me about what i was learning in school or anything like that. All my senior year expenses like prom, graduation, year book, my first car, all of that i paid for on my own. The reason I am going to college and want to do good in life is for ME. I honestly don’t feel like I have my parents support in all of my success. Other than having a roof over my head which i now have to pay rent, i feel like the best thing is being Independent! So just keep it up. You and I will get far in the world :)</p>