<p>I’ve realized that once people get to know me, they either avoid me or not like me as much as when they first met me. </p>
<p>An example is a roommate that I had last semester. At first she seemed okay with me. I hung out with her and her friends and everything seemed okay. Then I had issues with balancing my job and school, so I had erratic sleeping patterns —usually sleeping all day and staying up all night. I tried to be quiet when staying up, but I didn’t realize that I was still too loud when walking in and out of the room. I resorted to sleeping in the common room.</p>
<p>Honestly, I was a little upset with her because no matter how many times I complied with her, she had a new complaint. I also felt that it was unreasonable that she always told me to leave the door unlocked, but I ignored it since I didn’t want drama.
Sometimes I was so tired that clothes piled up on the floor. I always made sure the clothes were on my side of the room. </p>
<p>The RA told me that she said I was giving her dirty looks (I wasn’t) and that she felt like a stranger since I was quiet. Although the RA denied it, she clearly sided with her, since they had the same interests. </p>
<p>You know what truly sealed the deal, that most people can’t stand me? When I overheard my roommate say, “I’m desperate. I’m desperate. I don’t care where I have to move or if I have to go to a gender neutral room.” I’m not kidding. I didn’t know I was so unbearable until then.
She ended up leaving the room. I stopped dorming after that semester, mostly because I can’t afford it, but this experience was also part of the reason.</p>
<p>I could give more examples of people having problems with me but I’m going to end it here before it gets more tl;dr than it already is. </p>
<p>I know what it’s like trying to balancing odd jobs with school. I would recommend that you try to look for a better job, maybe try to find one of those desk jobs where you can sit and do hoomework.</p>
<p>As far as your roommate goes, I think people generally favor clean cut and organized people. It sounds like your work/school balance has turned you into a zombie on a daily basis. Also, you have irregular habits. Not to say that’s a bad thing or anything, I respect work ethic. But a lot of times, people judge you based on how you present yourself.</p>
<p>Its sounds like you and your roommate are just incompatible. From your post, it doesn’t sound like everyone hates you, the only person you even mentioned was your roommate. </p>
<p>It also doesn’t sound like you have any inherent personality issues either. You’re kinda messy and you keep weird hours, it bugged your roommate. It’s normal for roommates to get annoyed with each other. She’s probably used to having her own space and isn’t too keen on sharing. The whole idea of rooming is strange when you think about it because you are suddenly sharing intimate parts of your life with a complete stranger. Some people just don’t do well sharing a room.</p>
<p>I know that I absolutely couldn’t because I would end up murdering whoever I was living with. I HAVE to have my own space. And I’m sure there are very few people that would want me as a roommate either. </p>
<p>So, no, I don’t think you’re the problem. Rooming just isn’t for you (or her, possibly) or you just need to find a roommate that would be more compatible with you.</p>