@inthegarden wrote: “What if you no longer want to call your original home “home”? What if you have struggled mightily to become an American citizen and to be respected as such? What if home has been destroyed by war or famine and you just don’t want to talk about it in a trivial conversation? What if “home” is not a place favored by many Westerners and you just don’t want to deal with the response you almost invariably get? What if you come from a highly cultured background but people tend to assume otherwise by your nationality? What if you were adopted and just don’t feel like sharing private history with a stranger?”
So true!!! I can definitely relate or name real-life examples for every situation you’ve described. Not quite the same, but it really bothers me when people grumble about how much they want to relocate to another country (but of course they never do). I always want to tell them: “I chose to live here, and struggled for this privilege, and you live here by an accident of birth. If you want to move out, just do it already or stop complaining!”