<p>BunsenBurner-</p>
<p>Since your DH is getting you such a nice purse, you should maybe splurge and get the telescoping backscratcher with the nice wood and chrome handle [Large</a> Telescopic Back Scratcher, Wood Handle with Massager](<a href=“http://www.backscratcherworld.com/52-460.htm]Large”>http://www.backscratcherworld.com/52-460.htm) Seems only fair.</p>
<p>Fendergirl, that is too funny! Obviously, he did not want to wait that long, but did not want to spend his own money on it 
I would have given him the price of that PS in pennies, neatly packed in a box and wrapped up in shiny Christmas paper - lol!</p>
<p>She made him put it back in the box and give it to her on christmas eve, then she wrapped it up and let him re-open it christmas day, lol!</p>
<p>jym, Backscratcher World - oh, wow.Thanks! It is a backscratchers paradise! I might even go for the set of 5 exotic wood ones! Just kidding. One will be enough. He will be getting a Sky Scout as a bonus gift. :)</p>
<p>fendergirl, I guess they are still together- ? LOL!</p>
<p>As of now yes. We will see how the future goes. Lol. </p>
<p>Love the backscratcher world link. I feel like buying a fancy one now. LOL.</p>
<p>Backscratcher? That looks like a back hoe…(badda bing!)</p>
<p>I can’t remember the name right now, but there’s a cheesy TV show where 3 guest celebrities give advice to real married couples arguing about something. A case just like the one in Amy’s column was featured. The couple appear via a skype-type link. </p>
<p>I think the couple had been married about 10 years. They were doing very well financially. The wife wanted a bigger diamond. The guy was like that’s the one I gave her and getting another is silly. She just wants to show off. Then they showed the guy’s “toys,”-- a fishing boat (his wife doesn’t fish); a snow mobile, etc., etc. By the end of the presentation, all 3 of the celebrities were on the wife’s side. He had spent a LOT of money on himself and admitted that his wife hadn’t gotten a single “big ticket” item that was just for her in 10 years of marriage. Of course, this being cheesy TV, when the celebrities ruled, he whipped out a new ring and gave it to her on camera. </p>
<p>We had something similar in my family. My dad got my mom a new engagement ring about 40 years after they married…when the youngest sibling in my family finished law school and the last tuition check was mailed. It had always bugged her that she had such a modest ring. (I had it appraised last year and it’s worth $750 now. They got married during the Depression.) My dad expected mom to buy a better ring, but was astonished when she went all out. He thought it was silly, but he’d offered, and it meant a lot to my mom. She was by then about 65 and she showed off that ring like a newly engaged 20 year old!</p>
<p>Regarding gifts, I like to surprise people. If someone expected something specific, that would take away the fun of choosing something special for them and seeing the surprise on their face. If I were really strapped for ideas, I would ask them what they wanted, but generally I can find something without resorting to that. I don’t think I would ever give electronics–that seems impersonal, somehow.</p>
<p>“I don’t think most men know the feelings are that strong and near universal.”</p>
<p>This woman would be pleased to have a “freegan” diamond that someone else discarded… no ethical concerns about supporting the diamond cartel! In fact, I’d actually prefer that kind of diamond. One of my sisters has only rubies on her wedding ring, partly for anti-DeBeers reasons. (Her ring was also designed by her husband’s ex-girlfriend, who is a jewelry designer, and my sister had no problem with that. We’re a pretty flexible family when it comes to rings.)</p>