Another fashion thread - MOB, SMOB, graduation

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<p>Dntw8up - I don’t care if it becomes dated the month after I wear it. I have three gorgeous dresses in my closet. They all fit, but I don’t go to that many upscale events so if I blow some money on myself once every four years - so be it. </p>

<p>Mafool -first one looks like it would be too tight under the armpits - one of my fears is perspiration. I use Secret Clinical Strength, but one of my requirements (since this is an anonymous site) is that the dress won’t look pitted out. </p>

<p>Love the second - but once again - there is the perspiration worry. </p>

<p>So much to consider. No wonder I am starting so early.</p>

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<p>LOL^^^ sleep is probably better that no sleep, reduces the undereye circles :)</p>

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<p>wnp: what would help to reduce the pitting issue? lower cut adound the arm, OK. Are some fabrics better for you than others?</p>

<p>would this type of design work? (how do you feel about the ruching? I’m mostly looking at the cut on the top) I am not suggesting a pink animal print, BTW.</p>

<p><a href=“http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?PRODUCT<>prd_id=845524446248907&FOLDER<>folder_id=282574492047709&ASSORTMENT<>ast_id=1408474395222441&bmUID=1272832342027&ev19=1:90[/url]”>http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?PRODUCT<>prd_id=845524446248907&FOLDER<>folder_id=282574492047709&ASSORTMENT<>ast_id=1408474395222441&bmUID=1272832342027&ev19=1:90&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>another more open cut on top, no animal print, no ruching.
<a href=“http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?PRODUCT<>prd_id=845524446255989&FOLDER<>folder_id=282574492145815&ASSORTMENT<>ast_id=1408474395222441&bmUID=1272832793055&ev19=2:23[/url]”>http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?PRODUCT<>prd_id=845524446255989&FOLDER<>folder_id=282574492145815&ASSORTMENT<>ast_id=1408474395222441&bmUID=1272832793055&ev19=2:23&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

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<p>I like this for me!
<a href=“http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?PRODUCT<>prd_id=845524446357859&FOLDER<>folder_id=282574492047709&ASSORTMENT<>ast_id=1408474395222441&bmUID=1272832580467&ev19=1:93[/url]”>http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?PRODUCT<>prd_id=845524446357859&FOLDER<>folder_id=282574492047709&ASSORTMENT<>ast_id=1408474395222441&bmUID=1272832580467&ev19=1:93&lt;/a&gt;
but I don’t know what French Acetate is; silk would be better.</p>

<p>edited to correct the link</p>

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<p>“sleep is probably better that no sleep, reduces the undereye circles”
Oh mafool…I fixed…I got excited with the thread and the nice fashions.</p>

<p>Favorite colors?</p>

<p>Nice:
<a href=“http://sc7img.dillards.com/zoomImage.jsp?zoomDomain=sc7img&product=03287311[/url]”>http://sc7img.dillards.com/zoomImage.jsp?zoomDomain=sc7img&product=03287311&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

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<p>Well, since you have all been so unbelievably generous, I thought you might want to see DD’s gown.</p>

<p>[Gavina</a> bridal dress pictures - Pronovias 2010 Collection](<a href=“http://www.pronovias.us/fotos-vestidos-novias/gavina2010.html]Gavina”>http://www.pronovias.us/fotos-vestidos-novias/gavina2010.html)</p>

<p>I think it is just stunning. </p>

<p>So, I am taking all your suggestions to heart. One of the reasons I am a little unsure of myself is that I am the SMOB. I talked to D last night and asked what #1MOB thought she would be wearing. </p>

<p>D and I have had a wonderful relationship. I married her dad when she was 5 and we are very close. One of the reasons it has worked (if I do say so myself) is that I carved out a unique role with her - I always deferred to her mom, always backed her up (in fact if D ever complained about mom being too strict about something, I would say I might be even tougher so count your blessings), always stayed in the background. I could be a sounding board - but I never tried to be her mom.</p>

<p>This is a really special day for her mom. As I pick my dress, I will do it with the same eye towards being “stage crew.” Not that I don’t want to look great - but I don’t want to be dressier or showier than her mom.</p>

<p>Now when my younger DD gets married - well then that day can be all about ME. I will unleash my inner diva.</p>

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<p>It is beautiful…strikingly impressive…gorgeous!
You are very kind…</p>

<p>You just inspired me in thinking in my daughter…it will be a long wait for that day…probably 4 or 5 years from now.</p>

<p>Like this one: Conservative, elegant, proper for SMOB. Not sure if it is too serious. I love it!</p>

<p><a href=“http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2971259/0~2376776~2374327~6005464~6005515~6005555?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6005555&P=3[/url]”>http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2971259/0~2376776~2374327~6005464~6005515~6005555?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6005555&P=3&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>And this one:
<a href=“http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/3096219?tuid=000006cb-006f-0861-6c61-726765727669&id=10110797&largeImg=0&tname=product[/url]”>http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/3096219?tuid=000006cb-006f-0861-6c61-726765727669&id=10110797&largeImg=0&tname=product&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>Long one:
<a href=“http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2968542?tuid=000006cb-006f-0861-6c61-726765727669&id=8989900&largeImg=0&tname=product[/url]”>http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2968542?tuid=000006cb-006f-0861-6c61-726765727669&id=8989900&largeImg=0&tname=product&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

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<p>^ Lovely, lovely dress and a very fortunate young lady to have you as her SMOB.</p>

<p>My own DD’s wedding is years away - just sent her to her first prom and the quest for that dress took me days and days to recover from. Can only imagine what this must be like. I look forward to it so much. Enjoy! Savor! Cheers!</p>

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<p>LOVE the wedding gown. Of the two dresses you show, I’d go with the 2nd. </p>

<p>Frankly, I wouldn’t choose any kind of print for a wedding. Too many pictures! Prints can detract from the overall beauty and cohesiveness of the photo. I’d do a solid color dress that fits perfectly. I remember one year I was in the wedding photos of a niece and noticed after the fact how much my copper colored dress looked totally out of place with the reddish color of the bridesmaids in the wedding party. After that, I always inquired about any family wedding where I might be in the professional pictures and tried to make sure my attire didn’t “scream” out!</p>

<p>Mostly though, a solid color dress that will look good with the overall color palette would be what I’d look for.</p>

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<p>WNP- the wedding gown is stunning!!! I actually gasped when the page opened.</p>

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<p>if i was a smob not only would i be conscious of not up-staging the mom in terms of color, i would also not want to upstage the mom with too much cleavage, skin, legs, arms, well, you know what i’m trying to say.</p>

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<p>I know. Isn’t it amazing? (the gown - not upstaging!!!)</p>

<p>I was so pleased. I am a little tired of the strapless look, especially on young women who shouldn’t be wearing the strapless look. The Sunday paper is filled with photos of young women who should have been steered towards something else. Having said that - I think strapless or straps to the side look better on me.</p>

<p>As you send me ideas, I am getting a clearer picture of what I like (and don’t like). </p>

<p>I don’t like little jackets. They are not flattering for me. I have broad shoulders and broad back and they just don’t look good on me. </p>

<p>I like dresses with a waist or gently tapered at waist - not empire.</p>

<p>I don’t like satin - I think it would show perspiration. </p>

<p>When I start to order I will keep you posted. If I don’t find anything this spring/summer, I will provide airfare for you to join me on a trip to NYC. Well, I would love to - but I am joking.</p>

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<p>wbow - I agree</p>

<p>fortunately we are the same age - so we are both fighting the devil gravity</p>

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<p>If possible, I’d find out what both the bride’s mom AND the groom’s mom and/or step-mom are wearing before buying a dress–especially if you want to be consider a member of the wedding party–in photos, corsage, etc.</p>

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<p>wnp - I absolutely love the wedding dress. It almost made me cry for some reason.</p>

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<p>Jonri - I don’t consider myself a member of the wedding party - although I am sure I will be included in pictures, just not with everybody. I think I would be overstepping to ask about groom’s mom and insinuate myself. I figure #1MOB will confer with the groom’s mom and I will just find out via D what her mom is doing and then take it from there. </p>

<p>Eddie - I know, I felt the same way.</p>

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<p>How you find out the information is up to you. I think you should find out what the groom’s mom is wearing before you buy your own dress. You don’t want to wear up wearing the dress the groom’s mother has chosen, for example. In some cases, you might want to avoid wearing the same color as either the bride’s mom or groom’s mom.</p>

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<p>Jonri - as I have said before, my DD is a joy. She is the most relaxed, easy to please person. She is not worried, remember she is just asking the girls to pick something in a true purple. </p>

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<p>Gotta love her. She would never be chosen for that Bridezilla show!</p>

<p>And although I do have the worry gene, showing up in the same dress as groom’s mom isn’t likely to happen.</p>

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<p>Be sure and scan for your Tadashi choices on Bluefly.com. . D is a classical vocalist and has bought two Tadashis for performance purposes. One she bought via bluefly at 50% off, after returning it for a smaller size. The other, was bought at one of the Tadashi stores at 60% off. They are extraordinarily flattering and well made.
<a href=“http://www.tadashicollection.com/#[/url]”>http://www.tadashicollection.com/#&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

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<p>I agree. I have tried on several and I feel like they were designed for me. If it were younger D’s wedding, my inner diva would choose the one shoulder silk georgette in navy. </p>

<p>So I sent ALL of the links to my younger D and didn’t tell her how I found them or who suggested them. She would think I was crazy. She chose the very first two for me. Isn’t that funny. And honestly, she dresses much differently than I do - I just think those dresses looked like they would fit me.</p>