<p>This morning at the gym I saw the local news. An 18 year old Freshman at Cal Poly died after consuming a large amount of alcohol at a fraternity party.<br>
18 year old Carson’s parents get to fly in from Texas to claim his body.
Senseless and stupid. Could be any of our kids, frat member/pledge or not.</p>
<p>I have always told my son that life is just a series of choices. </p>
<p>Sometimes you get a ‘do over’, sometimes you do not.</p>
<p>Senseless indeed to poison yourself with alcohol…</p>
<p>Why does this keep happening? Are frat boys the thickest group on earth?</p>
<p>[Cal</a> Poly freshman dies after fraternity event - Local - San Luis Obispo](<a href=“http://www.sanluisobispo.com/news/local/story/546523.html]Cal”>http://www.sanluisobispo.com/news/local/story/546523.html)</p>
<p>He was found unconcious at 6:24am.</p>
<p>So very sad.</p>
<p>vballmom,
Thanks for the link. The pictures on the news were hearbreaking.</p>
<p>…“Sometimes you get a ‘do over’, sometimes you do not…”</p>
<p>I often told my kids, life is not a video game, you do not get to hit the reset button!!
Especially driving…
Such a shame.</p>
<p>We had one of these here in Indiana at Wabash. They have freshman move right into the frat–which seems so obviously stupid to me that I can’t believe they still do it. Anyway, this boy was a freshman from out West and from a non-drinking family. Apparently was calling home complaining to family about the pressure to drink. He was carried home by frat bros from a football game and they say they sat with him til 4 am. He was found dead later that morning. so senseless.</p>
<p>“Are frat boys the thickest group on earth?”</p>
<p>No, but an outsized proportion of them do seem to have the “compulsion to fit in” gene. Nonetheless, it’s another senseless death and my prayers go out to the family.</p>
<p>It says he was pledging the same frat that is being sued for the death of the UT-Austin freshman who was drunk and fell from a dorm balcony two year ago. The tragic waste of it… and both of their poor, poor parents. My heart goes out to them and to all parents who have lost children in similar circumstances. But, why oh why is it that when you get 3 or more young males (although it is sometime females) together with alcohol, their common sense just goes out the window? The “group-think” is just deadly.</p>
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<p>Instead of seeking help immediately?</p>
<p>No, Adad, they didn’t seek help. I really hope we start seeing some criminal charges in these cases.</p>
<p>The fraternity had been put on 6 months’ probation earlier this year for noise violations. Representatives had met with university officials earlier this year and agreeed to a strict agreement that no underage possession of alcohol be allowed.</p>
<p>[Fraternity</a> previously on probation before death of Cal Poly student - Local - San Luis Obispo](<a href=“http://www.sanluisobispo.com/news/local/story/548240.html]Fraternity”>http://www.sanluisobispo.com/news/local/story/548240.html)</p>
<p>And one more tragedy has struck the Cal Poly campus this morning. A 19-year-old student was found dead in the dorms. No cause has been determined although it seems like a “natural death”.</p>
<p>[Freshman</a> found dead in dorms Thursday - News](<a href=“http://media.www.mustangdaily.net/media/storage/paper860/news/2008/12/04/News/Freshman.Found.Dead.In.Dorms.Thursday-3570354.shtml]Freshman”>http://media.www.mustangdaily.net/media/storage/paper860/news/2008/12/04/News/Freshman.Found.Dead.In.Dorms.Thursday-3570354.shtml)</p>
<p>oh vballmom,
that is horrible news. My neighbor’s son goes to CalPoly and her husband is an alum. This has to be a shock and a wake up call to everyone there.</p>
<p>My S1 has applied ED to Cal Poly and is waiting to hear, along with his best friend. I know many parents/alums of SLO.</p>
<p>Last night we had yet another of my “Mom talks” with S1 and S2. Several messages: people really can die when drugs and alcohol are abused; even top schools like Cal Poly which do not have a party school reputation can have substance abuse issues; there’s a lot of peer pressure to drink; kids who don’t have experience with alcohol (like mine) don’t always know when they’ve had too much and should stop. My sons have heard this before, and fortunately know not to roll eyes or tell me I worry too much.</p>
<p>My heart goes out to all parents who have to pick up the pieces after a tragedy such as this.</p>