<p>I was going to articulate all that, but then I figured Barrons was just enjoying being a contrarian anyway. Anyone fast approaching 10,000 posts on CC can’t seriously think FB is any bigger waste of time than this. It’s all about connecting with people. I’ve found this site wonderfully useful and engaging, and I’d say the same about FB. I talk to my aunt in Maine, that I see maybe once every five years. I talk to a best friend in Milwaukee that I see infrequently as well. </p>
<p>I actually found Barron’s response oddly comforting, because I don’t mind a blunt person, and I can imagine him inadvertently offending people even more often than I do. :)</p>
You can “untag” yourself in the pictures, and then they won’t show up on your facebook page, and I don’t think they can be retagged. I know my DS - bless him - did not like an old and silly picture of him that I had posted on my facebook page. He detagged himself, thereby putting it out of reach of the purview of his friends. It’s easy to do - just go to the picure, and delete your tag! Hope this helps! P.S. If they are mutual friends, then they can still see the picture on her facebook page, but you won’t be tagged in it… so that may not completely take care of your issue.</p>
<p>I do love you Consolation. Although I secretly have a fascination with curly haired people(oerhaps because hobbits all have curly hair) and tend to imbue them with all sorts of whimsical qualities that they probably don’t posess. Except my neighbor. I hate her.</p>
<p>Helen. You certainly dont’ have to reiterate that. Your hostility is palpable. Probably, your hair is not only straight, but stringy…(j/k–just to be clear!)</p>
<p>And anyway, yes, hobbits have curly hair, but it’s on their feet…so, really.</p>
<p>I am also glad I found this thread. I just hid all the silly mafia wars and gifty posts from my fb. Really didn’t want any pretend foods and drinks that I wouldn’t eat/drink IRL. I also decided to block someone that I had been meaning to block for awhile, but just saw her on a new friends wall and realized it was just a matter of time until she asked to friend me.</p>
<p>I have enjoyed re-connecting with people that I knew in previous locations, including HS. I’ve also been friended by a niece, one of my kids, and some of my kids friends. It’s enjoyable to know what people are up to in a more casual way.</p>
<p>Well I logged on FB and unfriended my neighbors. </p>
<p>It’s funny because in reading these comments I thought it interesting that I haven’t gotten any stuff sent to me–like bumper stickers or food or anything, so guess what I found next? I saw that an ex-neighbor sent me a drink so I can earn drunkeness points, which is really awkward since I gave up alcohol years ago. It’s quite possible I’m just a giant drag, but what 45 year old wants to earn drunkeness points? Are the levels like: drunkeness, public disgrace, lying in the front yard in your underwear, and homeless? You win! I guess I should post that I’m a fan of sobriety to avoid any future confusion. :)</p>
<p>One of my friends (in real life and facebook) un-friended all of her co-workers. It was getting awkward for her- someone who never even spoke to her in the office wanted to be facebook friends. If someone asked her, she simply told them she was just using facebook as a way to connect with family and out of town friends and not local friends.</p>
<p>I’m the head of our hs parent organization, and I’m thinking of starting a Facebook group for it. I don’t know how many parents are on FB but I think the numbers are growing fast. We already have a webpage on the school’s website, but a FB group would make it easy for me to email (or FB message) a very large list of people very quickly. Any other plusses or minuses you are aware of? I would make it an “open” group, and I wouldn’t automatically friend everyone who joined!</p>
<p>You know, I’m a new facebooker and I’m trying to get used to it.
The pluses:
I feel more connected to dear college friends that I haven’t been keeping up with.
I enjoy seeing pics from family and good friends
The minuses:
I’m not crazy about getting weird invites like from the creepy boyfriend I had when I was 16. I just ignore them but they still bother me.
Some folks are egging me on to post pics and to share more about what’s going on. I don’t like it. I tend to be a quiet facebooker and I like it that way.
Some folks (even those I love) post WAY too much. Like five times per day. With lots of pics. I can’t keep up! </p>
<p>This thread has motivated me to spend time on my privacy settings. Thanks for the tips!</p>
<p>I tend to use facebook to converse (on a very superficial level) with people who share my interest in painting. Generally students and teachers whom I have met in the last two years. It’s a great unobtrusive to post works in progress and keep each other aware of upcoming shows, opportunities and classes. As far as letting in friends, relatives and neighbors…they know too much already.</p>
<p>I’m having fun with Facebook–more than I ever thought I would when I got started!</p>
<p>It’s an easy way to keep up with far-flung friends who would never write letters in a million years, as well as casual nearby friends, my own children, and their friends. </p>
<p>I don’t post often, though there was a flurry of activity after our recent vacation. Everyone posted their photos and it was like being there all over again. :)</p>
<p>I have another, “overly-wary” question. I’m not into the gifts, games, etc, but any time I do consider a questionnaire or quiz, I get that screen where they tell you they need to access all your and your friends’ personal info. Whoa! Why would I okay that? but, everyone else is? Any thoughts on this?</p>
<p>I’ve had a FB account for years now (connected to my alma mater), but only really started using it this past January or so. I’m still undecided about FB, as I dislike the quizzes/games/challenges/nonsense. The only options are to block the specific quiz/game, etc. (but then that only works for that one, and they seem to change daily) or don’t have the friends who do this sort of thing show up on your Newsfeed (you can still go to their pages to read what they are up to).</p>
<p>Here is some information about FB privacy. There is more about the subject in FB’s Help section, as well as other online articles (just google it).</p>
<p>garland, I wondered about that myself. Finally I gave in and did a couple of quizzes. The thing is, anyone can make up a quiz, and most of the info and answers are ridiculous. Later I found a way to go in and “un-allow” access for those programs - I think I just deleted the applications. Can’t remember how I did it though.</p>
<p>I think they just need to access your friends list so it can annoy you into inviting your friends to take the quiz. I’ve stopped using these applications because I think they’re dumb, but I think the “access” they get is pretty harmless.</p>
P.S. If they are mutual friends, then they can still see the picture on her facebook page, but you won’t be tagged in it… so that may not completely take care of your issue.</p>