Any other parents of twins out there?

<p>I know fencersmom and I share this in common but I was wondering about others as well.</p>

<p>Are your kids best buddies?
Are they looking at or attending the same schools?
Did you have drama when one got into a school and another did not?</p>

<p>My answer to the first two questions is YES and the third is the one that has me concerned. Did anyone go through this? I am worried that if one of my girls gets in somewhere her sister doesn't that she won't go even if it is her first choice. I know I am borrowing trouble here but I want to be prepared if this happens so please help if you have been through it. Thanks!</p>

<p>Oh yes. There is another thread on here somewhere regarding twins and schools. Mine were committed to going to different schools, though have such similar interests that they applied to the same places, got the same music scholarships, etc. And then had to decide which would go and which wouldn't. Though again just to be different (they are identical) one is going on a gap year and one isn't. Sounds as if your twins are committed to being together, and college, like everything else in their lives may involve compromise.</p>

<p>Raising hand here, although my twins are still in high school, are boys, and are fraternal. We did confront this issue because the high school they attend is an independent school with competitive admissions. The question was what to do if both were not accepted. Fortunately, it worked out. I guess I would say that they are best buddies, and they have many of the same interests. It's hard when they are directly competing against one another, which happens all too often in music and theater. I will see where all of these leads in a couple of years.</p>

<p>Do a search for threads started by Frecklybeckly in the spring of 2005. Her twin brother was admitted to her dream school, Yale, while she was not. She did a great job of sharing her emotions during the rollercoaster ride of her admissions process. She's a terrific kid and her story has a happy ending. Good luck.</p>

<p>My twins were committed to attending different schools from the get-go. The only schools that they both applied to (and were accepted to) were two safety schools.</p>

<p>Thanks to all. My girls are ID. They have so far expressed interest in the same campuses and they really do have very similar interests. When people ask them, which they do all the time, if they are going to go to the same school they always give a non-commital answer. I don't think that staying together is paramount for them yet, I forsee them being put in a position where they either separate w/ hurt feelings or staying together w/ resentment. For the record we have always encouraged their individuality. This is just how they have turned out, as close as two sisters can be</p>

<p>Thanks for the input esp. re FrecklyBeckly. I will do a search for her posts.</p>

<p>A pair of girls in my grade this year both applied to HYP and got the same acceptances, although one who applied to Stanford was wait-listed.</p>

<p>They're going to Harvard and Yale. Let the jokes begin.</p>

<p>I don't have twins, but have friends who do and kids have freinds who are.... one set, fraternal girls, got in to all the schools they applied to - although they didn't both apply to all the same schools. Are happy to both be going to the "reach" school. Best friends but some different interests. Don't know if they plan to be in the same dorm. Another set, both boys, are headed to equally demanding LAC on opposite coasts. Another has ID boys who are both headed to the big state school near here; but decided on different dorms and majors. They'll probably have to make plans to even meet up! I had a roomie who was one of ID triplets. They were very close (3 legs of the 400 relay, said it caused some confusion at track meets!) but chose different colleges because "It was time". My roomie went Greek, her sisters didn't. After visiting our school, both went through rush sophomore year, but all pledged different houses.<br>
Lesson: there are many ways to find their own path.</p>

<p>I have twin friends who graduated this year who are going to the same school, but different roommates, and different dorms.</p>

<p>I have identical twin boys going to college this year. They are best buddies most of the time and occasional enemies.</p>

<p>From day one they decided to go to different schools. They felt they needed to be away from each other for awhile. One liked the idea of the "elite" schools and looked at the rankings and the other could care less. They are very different personalities.</p>

<p>One is going to a large private that is very selective while the other is going OOS to a large public university.</p>

<p>Sigh I hoped they would go to the same place but such is life with twins</p>

<p>Yes, Historymom, I do have identical twin boys. They are a little unusual in that they have been homeschooled, so we never had issues of "separate classrooms," or different school friends. But, they both excel in the same sport (fencing), and everything about them is very similar. In fact, of the 2400 points available on the SAT, they scored within 20 points of each other!</p>

<p>Rising seniors, they are on the cusp of going to different colleges because only one is interested in the Air Force Acad., the other not. However, it is my guess (and choice, though I'm keeping, or trying to keep, my mouth shut at this stage) that they will go to the same college. Their dad and I have said that's fine, but that for their first year, they can't room together. What they do after freshman year is ok.</p>

<p>I think the reason I'd like them to go to school together is that they are indeed, each other's best friends - better, more devoted friends than I have ever seen in non-twins. I think the shock of leaving home, college adjustments, etc. will be twice as hard on them if they are completely apart - say one at the USAFA and one at Penn. Oh! That might not be good.</p>

<p>Nice thread, good ideas. Anybody with triplets or more? (we'll start a fund for you!)</p>

<p>The Val. and Sal of our schools grad. class this year were twin brothers, not identical. One is going to Yale and the other to USNA.</p>

<p>Hi- My twin are juniors. Fraternal boys, best buds, very different but some similar interests. They definately want to go to school together. Most of the research I have done has said that if the 2 are reasonably similar they will accept and reject together. Even princeton had an article on being sensitive to that issue, Duke does as well. However, all say that if one is not a viable candidate on his/her own being a twin won't help.</p>

<p>I had never even thought that colleges might even glance at the fact that they are twins. Could this be a hook? :^)</p>

<p>^funny thing is it turned out to be the best thing for me and my brother. We are best friends, we ended up in the same major (and minor), take the same classes (because we might as well), roomed together until this year, and honestly even thought I'm interested to see where we end up for grad school since we're interested in different fields within our major, I do like that I can hang out with him when I want to.</p>

<p>But to the point, the admission officer who covers my area said the fact that we seemed like normal people, and our applications were very very similar while having very different essays was a huge advantage. He thought we were hilarious and we were his top choice for admission that year.</p>

<p>And as for the main post, no we got accepted to all the same schools, it was just a matter of figuring out where we wanted to go. We weren't set on going to the same school until our math teacher said he had written a joint recommendation ... which was weird.</p>

<p>Our ID twin sons are off to Duke in 3 weeks. After attending a Duke basketball camp the summer before 7th grade, they both made up their minds that this is where they wanted to go to college.
Their SAT scores were 10 pts apart and they graduated with the same class rank: 5/386.</p>

<p>Before applying to Duke ED, the boys asked a Duke admissions officer who had been doing the local circuit with other universities such as Harvard, Georgetown and Penn about multiples' chances of being accepted together. </p>

<p>They were told that Duke recognizes and appreciates the strong bond between twins and if the profiles were of equal strength, they would probably be treated the same. In other words, they would either both be accepted or rejected. If one applicant was stronger than the other, then the admissions officers had to make the difficult decision of possibly accepting one and rejecting the other. Duke's application specifically asks if the student is a twin or multiple and I think it also inquired as to where the other student(s) is applying.</p>

<p>With that information, the boys both decided to apply for ED. Had they not been admitted ED, they still planned to apply to the same schools and I believe that they would be going together had it not been Duke. They are both in Engineering, but are not rooming together. As a matter of a fact, they are in different dorms. I am very pleased that they decided not to room together.</p>

<p>They are the best of friends, but respect each other's need to be his own person. So, if your daughters want to go together, I would suggest that they specifically ask the schools how the issue is handled, if at all. I know that the boys asked admission officers at Wake Forest and UVa the same question they asked at Duke and were told that each student is evaluated independently and no consideration is given to the fact that they are twins.</p>

<p>Good luck to you and your girls.</p>

<p>I probably will be more helpful after the boys have a month or so under their belts.</p>

<p>Yes, I have twin boys, and yes, there was much, much drama about college acceptances. One son got into one of the top LACs and the other into a mid-level. Although the latter twin had more trouble in high school (he changed schools after his sophomore year), he had a more "rigorous" course load. The fact that he changed to a "lesser" high school, however, made him less attractive. It became intensively competitive here and the summer before they went to college they stopped speaking to each other. :( Part of this, I think, was breaking off.</p>

<p>Son #2, however, got $10,000 in grant aid from his college, whereas we had to fight for $5,000 from the other son's. Son #2 also done very, very well, whereas the other twin is taking a year off college. Our theory is that Son #1 had everything come a bit too easy, whereas #2 had been through it all already. </p>

<p>It's all for the good, however, because I think that now everything has evened out and they not only talk to each other this summer, but like each other. Whew!</p>

<p>"Most of the research I have done has said that if the 2 are reasonably similar they will accept and reject together." </p>

<p>Wow! I never even considered that. Are you saying that some colleges will actually admit a slightly less, though still qualified, student because they have admitted their twin sibling?</p>

<p>That is weird that you were written joint letter. Did you consider not using it or are you two so similar that it was still personalized? Just curious.</p>

<p>I am sure all of you have had the same types of experiences where your twins were either accepted or rejected together in other parts of their world. For us it was the middle school b-ball team where there were so many girls trying out who were in the middle of the talent pool that it was easy to treat them as a single unit and cut them both...not that they wouldn't have been cut anyway, it's just that I think it made it easier for the coach to disgard them and say..."Well that's two down and just 13 more cuts to go." </p>

<p>I am astounded that a school like Duke would take their twinship into consideration. That really is a cool thing!</p>

I suppose it all depends on the definition of "slightly less". With our twins, but for the 10 point difference in the SAT scores, their applications were virtually identical. I think that's why the boys were relatively confident that they would either both get in or both be rejected. Their essays were entirely different and did not touch on the subject of being a twin.</p>