I just can’t move on…and it’s difficult to say but I just don’t know what the heck to do.
I was dismissed from my University’s college of Biomedical Engineering after 3 terms of probation. Despite this, my cumulative GPA still remains “ok” at 2.2
Other colleges at my university are willing to accept me next term for whatever major I choose to transfer to.
That’s cool and all and I’m planning to return to my university at another college next fall but…I just can’t mentally move on
Freshman year I wasn’t a star student like in high school, but I kept a GPA of 3.2. Not amazing, but It was pretty dang good in my eyes for freshman year…then I started slumping during summer term when I suddenly took interest in very different majors like entrepreneurship or commerce engineering
3 terms later though and my GPA went down to 2.2 after 3 terms on probation (including classes taken while on co-op) and I got dismissed. My appeal failed and while the committee sympathized with me, in the end they felt Biomedical Engineering wasn’t for me and wouldn’t accept me back.
I mean…I know that technically I’m in a salvageable situation, but…I just can’t stomach my failure emotionally. I’m moving out of my dorm next week and returning home to very disappointed parents who will no doubt drill me with guilt as they have done so in the past and I’m going to face up to two cousins in high school who looked up to me.
Heck, even without my parents drilling me, I already feel awful, heavy guilt is on me because I’ve got no scholarship, and a really minimal GPA after sophomore year in my school’s 5 year co-op program at a place BOTH of my parents graduated from biomed flawlessly.
Some of my so-called “friends” have relentlessly harassed me for the past 3 days to the point I’m basically just huddling in my dorm only coming out very occasionally and I’ve spent the last 3 nights basically crying myself to sleep and I haven’t met with any of my other more sincere friends, nor have I contacted my family at all after breaking the news and setting a date for me to come home.
Well, it’s better you found out now that BME is not for you, than after getting your first job and realizing you’re not cut out for it.
Here’s what has helped me in the past: I CANNOT do anything about other people’s reactions. That’s THEIR problem. What I CAN do is control MY actions. My saying: “It’s not what happens to me that’s important. How I REACT to things that happen is what’s important!”
Stay away from judgmental friends. Tell your parents your plan of action. Buck it up and start fresh.
If you honestly can’t stop crying and aren’t functioning properly, you should get some counselling. I’ve done that in the past, dealing with my schizophrenic son. Believe me, everyone has challenges - most of them you don’t know about. Again, it’s how you deal with those challenges that matters. Some days, I feel like crawling in the hole when I think of my bright son (who started out in BME, by the way) living in a group home under constant supervision. But I’ve chosen to reach out and help other parents who are in the same boat. It’s up to ME whether I have a miserable or happy life. I choose to ignore “friends” who question how we parent our adult son.
@Wutskraken: I’m so sorry you’re having a difficult time. Real friends are supportive, so I wouldn’t waste time worrying about the people with whom you’re currently living. If your cousins are mature, they will support you. If not, give them time to grow up. Can you talk with your parents about how you’re feeling? I can’t imagine a parent who wouldn’t try to help their child if they knew he was crying himself to sleep. It breaks my heart just thinking about it. Can you reach out to one of your parents this afternoon?
It’s okay if your current major isn’t the one you ultimately end up in. Many students change majors. There’s nothing wrong with changing majors and you don’t owe anyone an explanation for the switch. You can go to your new college and start fresh. If your roommate is one of the people giving you a hard time or if all the BME students dorm nearby, you may want to start fresh in a new dorm too. Focus on your future and keep us updated on how you’re doing. 
Well, I guess I may as well seek out emotional counseling when I get home. Not being able to function for 4 days and being constantly bullied/cyberbullied by people i once thought were friends really grinds me down
I’m confused - did YOU admit that BME is not for you? Or did they TELL you that BME is not for you? They can kick you out of your major without the Dean of the university having a say in it?
Did you upset the chair or professors?
If you still want to do BME, can you retake classes and try to get a better grade?
What would another major be for you? Do you have any idea?
I’d probably be stubborn and look at retaking classes to get better grades, IF my parents could afford it, and IF I found a BME professor willing to mentor me and get me back on track.
However, I’m not sure how you could take a co-op so early, apparently sophomore year, and also take classes during the co-op (unless you mean you got a poor grade for the co-op itself).
We have 3 co-op cycles. Sophomore, prejunior, and junior year, summer classes are regular here
As for pissing anyone off, I don’t think so, I haven’t been kicked from here either I’m dismissed from the BME program because of 3 terms on probation. We have a quarterly system rather than semesters
2 of my probation terms were taking night classes on co-op. Also, I’ve been on the fence about BME for a while anyway. Commerce engineering is what I’ve been looking at and I’d be accepted back into that major in the fall
So yeah…technically I’m okay academically. But I’m just real upset I got dismissed to the point I can’t function and I’m psychologically lost and I’m constantly harassed now by other people in this dorm and my former “friends” because now I’m “the idiot who flunked BME”
In fact, this morning I had a sign taped to my door saying that