Hello can anyone offer more advice to this topic?
I don’t think there is more to say. It is unfortunate, but you are not the only person to have to deal with this circumstance. You need to fill the gap as best you can with other things – close friendships, work, etc.
I wish you the best – but again I recommend that you seek out counseling instead of spending all this time on CC. Many of your issues need to be resolved by coming to terms with yourself and a good therapist can help you do this.
@happy1 can I ask you about If I’m doing good financially? I’m gonna be 20 in a few days and I have $2500 in my savings account! I Could have more if I didn’t buy fast food,Junk,video games,clothes,or movies! If I had family,I would have people to buy me stuff I need and want! I don’t like spending money and paying taxes!
@happy1 another Question I have! Is it ok to quit a Job without another one lined up? That’s another area of my life that isn’t good! I feel like when i work i’m doing it for everybody else’s and not for me!
@SuperGeo5999, You live with your mom, don’t you? If you can’t talk to her about the questions you’ve posted in all your threads, you should probably continue to look for a therapist who’s a good fit for you. We don’t know you and we’re not trained or qualified to give you the in-depth help you seem to be trying to find.
I cannot opine on your work or financial situation. It is not an appropriate question given that I have no knowledge of of your personal finances (nor should I know about your personal finances).
How good is having your own family by having kids and getting married without the grandparents, Cousins, a ton of siblings, or uncles and aunts? I always assumed this will be more of a chore!
@happy1 I’m sorry I asked you inappropriate Questions, was rude, or argued with you. I learned how much of an impact the explanation marks made my replies. I’m not gonna put explanation marks in my sentences anymore.
You are very young to think in have kids, probably you’ll find your perfect match and change your mind about have kids or not.
I’love paying stuffs for my kids and I tried to give to them every thing they need, must at all LOVE, this is free.
@International Dad I like your philosophy on paying for things. I think Education is very important and is something worth paying for and Maybe if I have kids I’ll pay to send them to good private schools.
The reason I’m bitter about paying for things is because of Dave Ramsey and judges people on there habits, I hate how he does that. i think he does teach good things but shouldn’t judge people for what they do. Before I knew of Dave Ramsey I thought it was special just to have or spend money on anything but now I gotta feel bad about every dollar I spend. How do I spend money without feeling bad?
OP, you are all over the place with your threads. This one was about lacking family, yet you live with your mother. Now we are back to Dave Ramsey. I agree with other posters that you should talk to a professional.
@CottonTales everything seems connected to one another. My mother is not enough support becuase I don’t have grandparents or am close enough to my brother,cousins,aunts, or uncles. Parents are not the only family that people need. It’s support and good times that I need with people and am seeking.
I don’t think you’re going to be able to find what you want online. You’re a college student and you have a job. Those are two places you can look for people to socialize with. You could volunteer in your community too.
Does your college have clubs or organizations you might like? Do they have anything going on this summer? Most colleges offer summer classes, so some activities continue over the summer too.
My family is just me and my parents. I’ve never had grandparents, aunts, cousins, etc. For the first 20-some odd years of my life (until I married), it was just us and that’s all I needed.
Mr R has a TON of family but none of them really support each other. All very friendly to each other but no one knows anything personal about the others.
It’s about quality, not quantity.
austin has good advice.
You also really need to see a counselor.
You are throwing yourself a pity party. You have a mother who supports you and provides you a home while you are attending CC, you have siblings, and numerous other relatives. Don’t you get that there are people out there who truly have to fend for themselves with zero family to help? You are not in that boat at all. You can’t choose the ideal family but to say you “lack family” is just plain wrong. If your family doesn’t provide the “fun times” you want then you need to seek it out fun elsewhere.
Find a counselor to speak with.
@happy1 I promise I have an appointment scheduled to meet with a counselor. I’m sorry for everything you’ve seen that I posted in my threads.
it’s the holidays and vacations that I’m concerned about If I’ll have good times during those because I don’t wanna be alone during those times.
I hope you can work through these things when you go to a counselor.
Thank you @happy1
My uncle and cousin which are the best people that I’m Biologically related to who I love and care about are so busy with work, my uncle is busy with work on his house when he is not working, and when my cousin isn’t working he is with his friends or playing video games. They also live 130 miles away from me so it is hard to visit them. i admire all those reasons for why they don’t have time for me or not even be able to talk on the phone but I need people in my life. I use to have good times with my uncle and cousin whether it would be short trips, playing video games, or just visiting but that faded away once I moved away from my hometown.