<p>It sounds like performersmom probably lives in a small town where people watch where you live and all belong to the same clubs. I can see her DH’s point of view if that’s the case. But I agree with the poster who said that if he’s that concerned about being pushed out there’s a good chance he will be. So maybe it’s a good idea to work on DH to go with the empty nest downsizing line so they can start conserving resources.</p>