<p>I guess I view my daughter’s scholarships (and mine, back in the day) as part gift and part entitlement. It is a blessing/gift in that it was received by the generosity of another person. But she also worked darn hard all through high school and did “earn”/deserve it, as opposed to others who simply expect a hand out because they wanted it, not earned it - so in some ways one can say she deserved it. Kid did all she could to get an opportunity to get an education and career in which she can help others, but needed the help of others to get through college.</p>
<p>How “humble” do you want the recipient to be? I ask because a group at one of my former churches would not donate to the charity that allowed groups or individuals to receive annonymous Christmas gifts (adopt a family kind of thing). They wanted to see the family that received the gifts and receive thanks and praise and probably humbleness. I questioned what the spirit behind the gift was - the joy of helping someone in need give their children a sense of the magic of Christmas and believe in Santa or to satisfy some need within themselves for praise/power/whatever.</p>
<p>Not questioning your motives, but curious. How much gratitude does one need to receive in order to do a good thing?</p>