<p>Lookingforward wrote: It’s common for some colleges to put big donors together with kids who benefitted- also to ask kids to send a brief, newsy thank you to the originators of that fund once/year (usually, the names on the fund.) The feedback I’ve seen from kids, after they met a donor, was rather sweet. </p>
<p>For a church- wow, a family that needs a holiday basket, toys or warmwear being asked to step forward to people who probably gave a minimum. Just wow. No humility there. </p>
<p>My kid wrote thank you notes to the board of directors for her merit scholarship, and to the donor of a named scholarship.</p>
<p>As far as the church thing: the congregation gave very generously: a new stove, bedding and some electronics for the kids, clothes and stuff to the tune of $1500. It was only the members who organized it that insisted on the face-to-face with the family. It is also the reason I’m no longer at that church because those members were jerks.</p>