I’m right there with you on all this. College is just expensive, even in-state. Like it or not, it’s reality. A lot of middle-class people with nice houses etc. are downright angry when the time comes and they find out how much it actually costs. That often doesn’t sink in until after all the aid offers have already come in.
I supposed some people don’t check to see how much it costs in advance, and/or are assuming it’s about the same as when they attended. You can tell some are flying a bit blind, as they’ll think that FAFSA is a government program that decides how much aid they’ll get and hands it out, as opposed to a formula that determines what they think you should be able to afford. I hear some folks assuming they’ll get “more FAFSA” or “scholarships” to cover huge college expenses.
We too were unable to save for college due to low wages and our own student loans (still paying!). Though we have saved for retirement.
Yet we were pleasantly surprised at our $23K SAI number. Do we have money saved for that? No. Can we cash flow that? Absolutely not. But we were well-informed and knew that was pretty dang low for an SAI, so we weren’t disappointed. And we knew that colleges have no obligation to meet your SAI (though in-state publics and fancy privates often do).
We were lucky that our kid applied to lots of less selective schools and got great merit aid offers, as well as pretty generous need-based aid. Most offers came in within $5K of our SAI. Our kid picked one of the cheapest ones and we’ve been able to make it work with just the direct federal loans. This is largely because our kid earns 10K/yr working.
A ton of kids from our HS apply OOS to UMich. Why? It’s a big name and they erroneously think their kid will get a bunch of aid. Almost none could afford it even if they got in. For the ones that do get in, some of their parents are in deep financial distress to pay for it.
Exactly. It’s all about managing expectations. And I think a lot of people’s expectations are WAY off. Though I feel bad for them, since it’s common to be in the dark about it.
A lot of our friends are professors and I’ve been surprised at how even some of them are pretty clueless about college admissions and costs when it comes to their own kids. You can tell which ones are savvy because their kids apply to a way more eclectic list of schools rather than the typical list, and almost all of them end up attending some really neat OOS schools that have offered them a great aid package.
A typical app list for a studious kid from our HS is Purdue, IU, U Chicago, Northwestern, UMich, Notre Dame, plus a random sprinkling of other fancy schools. Spoiler: they all end up at the in-state publics and thank goodness those are great and quite cheap. But there are so many great schools they miss out on because they just don’t understand the landscape.
And some of them are pretty bitter at the admissions and/or aid because the results did NOT meet expectations. Whereas here on CC, people who have become informed prior to applying are often very pleasantly surprised at the results. Because they have accurate knowledge and realistic expectations.
I think this is largely how the student debt gets away from people. They don’t have realistic expectations and then when reality hits they just decide to borrow.