<p>are you holier than me cause you never been in a fist fight? i know some people who are “better” than me because they look down on my sometimes ‘barbaric’ actions. and it is usally the smart people who get good grades that think like that.</p>
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<p>Well let’s ask the reverse (which is implied in your question)… do you think you’re better than others because you get into fist fights? Why or why not?</p>
<p>I’ve never gotten into a fight, and I think that’s largely because I’m not a fan of fighting. It’s probably also a matter of circumstance (I grew up in a middle-class suburban public school system… there were fights, but not many). I don’t consider myself “morally superior” to people who have gotten into fights, though I do think I control my temper better than they do.</p>
<p>Of course, some people get into fights too often and for no justifiable reason. I do subconsciously look down on those types.</p>
<p>No, I’m not morally superior than you. If you fought against injustice more power to you. I am, however, smarter than you. Fists don’t solve problem, look at the Iraqi War. I prefer to plan out my revenge and being patient about it. Long term benefits are greater because it’ll cause more misery and more difficult to trace things back to you. Sure, punching people gives you instant gratification, but seeing them suffer day in and day out is long term pleasure…in that note, Happy New Year everyone.</p>
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<p>no, i don’t. but i do seem to receive a wave of backlash from people who look down on me. and this forces me to ponder the subject. and pondering i am doing by asking you guys…</p>
<p>Well, I don’t think violence ever really solves anything, but I understand that sometimes things happen and if you get really frustrated and ticked off about something, you want to hit it. Understandable and I’ve done it before, once, but it didn’t solve anything and I just got more upset about it. I don’t think I’m superior to you or anything, but I don’t think you’re all great cause you can hit something either.</p>
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<p>You’re not “holier” than anyone if you’ve never been in a fist fight. However, fist fights <em>are to be avoided</em> and should be looked down upon. The person shouldn’t be looked down upon, but rather the person’s actions.</p>
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<p>Well, there is only one reason to be in a fist fight. Fight if someone attacks you. Otherwise, you make yourself look like a fool.</p>
<p>Apart from situations of self-defense I don’t think it’s ever acceptible to use physical force towards someone else. </p>
<p>I think the reason people likely look ‘down’ upon you is that one (probably fair) assesment is that one should settle any disagreement with words not fists. If someone resorts to fists, it sends a signal that perhaps they weren’t capable of resolving that problem with words and therefore ‘couldn’t cut it’ in that regard.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t necessarily ‘morally’ look down upon you for fighting someone, but it’s safe to say I wouldn’t be too impressed by you. </p>
<p>P.S. If you ever throw a punch in my direction, you better have a good lawyer unless you want you and your family’s life savings and assest cleaned out 
Be careful, because the next person you punch might do the same thing. A few 6 year olds fighting in the playground is one thing, from high school onwards it’s the sort of thing that could land you in jail.</p>
<p>I actually respect men who would fight (to defend either against a physical attack or an insult) much more then men who wouldn’t.</p>
<p>Don’t worry, nobody is superior to you, and you are not superior to anyone because you got into a fist fight. It’s usually a good idea to resolve conflicts without violence, but when you are in danger, it’s important to fight back. The human body can be tuned to become an excellent weapon, and you should be able to / learn to properly defend yourself. Just the confidence that comes from knowing you know how to defend yourself will scare off half the people who would attack you.</p>
<p>rocketman08: Yeah, people shouldn’t throw punches at you, but just because your family can afford expensive lawyers doesn’t mean that you should completely destroy another person and his/her families life. A black eye is nothing compared to the decades of suffering you can inflict on another person because they weren’t thinking clearly for a few minutes. I hope you don’t grow up to abuse the luxuries you can afford.</p>
<p>“I actually respect men who would fight (to defend either against a physical attack or an insult) much more then men who wouldn’t.”</p>
<p>I think that is the problem. Many childish highschoolers fight to make themselves look tough to their peers. Why? Maybe they want respect. They want to be cool. </p>
<p>Now I agree with you that one should defend against a physical attack. But a insult? Comeon. Thats uncalled for. What is there to gain? They will most likely gain a lawsuit and some prison time.</p>
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<p>Agreed, I’d appreciate a man who would fight and could fight, but chooses not to fight.</p>
<p>I beat up a guy pretty bad in 8th grade because he was drunk (yes, a drunk f’ing 8th grader) and started pushing me around at a friend’s house.</p>
<p>The only other fight I’ve gotten in was last year. I beat up a guy because he was going too far with a girl at a party, and she was screaming out at him to stop. She obviously didn’t want any from him. I tried to resolve the situation peacefully, but then he slapped me in the face (gay on his part, I know). He woke up at a local hospital.</p>
<p>I’m a peace-loving guy, but I think there are times when you SHOULD defend yourself (or the helpless). And let’s not turn this into some BS analogy to the Iraq war, that’s different than fist fighting. I’m against the war.</p>
<p>Is someone better than me because they’ve never been in a fight? No. But someone who’s never been in a fight is better than the person who goes around picking fights for the heck of it, making trouble everywhere he goes.
I only fight to defend myself, and I am better than the person who doesn’t defend himself in the face of peril.</p>
<p>Not that a drunk 8th grader is the face of peril, lol</p>
<p>I don’t think suing someone if they attack you / beat you up because they lost their temper constitutes ‘abuse’ nor would I lose much sleep at night putting someone through hardship by suing them for resorting to physical violence. I can’t stand bogus lawsuits, but I think suing someone if they physically attack you is perfectly justifed… this of course would be a civil matter and in addition to any criminal charges that the individual would face. </p>
<p>There’s simply no excuse for an adult to try and beat up someone… anyone who makes such a stupid decision deserves what they get (both in terms of other people’s opinion towards them and any legal mess that results).</p>
<p>I don’t think defense counts for “fighting” really, except on the person who started it’s side. They’re just a jerk. But if you are just defending yourself that’s fine, although I would try and resolve it peacefully first (don’t just jump in fists flying). And don’t get in a fight if you’re drunk because both people usually end up hurting the next day because they can’t feel the pain they’re in at the time and keep going back for more. I think it’s really immature for people to pick fights over no reason, and I don’t think fighting should be the first thing people resort to, to resolve something. At least try to talk it out first, and if the other person is not hearing it, try walking away unless they then swing at you, then feel free to defend yourself (although really, you shouldn’t be trying to inflict alot of pain on them, just be trying to make them stop).</p>
<p>it’s easy to say not to get in a fight when you’re drunk if you’re sober…</p>