.^^^I was going to say that as well. In families where there is a child with special needs, it may be the best thing for one of the parents to be the primary caretaker. There are all kinds of valid reasons why a parent would prefer to be a SAHP. Hopefully, this is a decision supported by both parents. But it should in no way be seen as “shirking” some duty to “work,” as being a SAHP is very hard work. It’s not sitting around all day watching soap operas or having three martini lunches with the girls.
I’ve done every combination possible since my kids were born. I’ve been a SAHM, I’ve gone to school part time, worked full time, worked part time, did another round of SAHM, and worked part time again. I wasn’t making a bigger contribution to our family when I worked full time than when I stayed home full time.
Yep, I’ve done all the roles as well during a marriage. The one I liked least was begging the private HS to allow our D to remain a student do she could keep her peer group and friends, even tho her health made her miss half the school year. It made H and I very relieved that I was able to take whatever role our kids and family needed me to take over the decades.
We felt fortunate–that I have a broad and useful skill set, H earned enough that via stringent economizing we could survive on variable income, and that I was able to get enough employment when we needed more cash flow. We felt our family and each of us benefitted from the flexibility.
well, uh, it seems weird to me that she married him when he had already been unemployed for a year and seemingly chose to remain unemployed and/or to seek help for possible crippling depression. She had said being unemployed was always at the top of her deal breaker list. Makes no sense to me.
Gee don’t confuse the gal with logic and consistency, jeez! :-/ Maybe her fiancée will be lucky enough to see this brilliant piece of writing before the wedding day.
Folks, don’t take this article in Redbook so seriously. First he’s Aaron. She’s got another in Good Housekeeping about her expensive wedding to Adam and one in the LA Times calling him Matt. This is formula writing.
Of course this type of writing is meant to suck people in. The photo was a giveaway that nothing serious will follow. Stephanie Williams (or whatever that girl’s name is) at least put her semi-naked photo at the end of her piece.
But give a piece of tripe writing to a bunch of intelligent people, and they can always turn the conversation towards an interesting subject like what makes one to choose to become a sahp v working parent.
The photo was a giveaway that nothing serious will follow. Stephanie Williams (or whatever that girl’s name is) at least put her semi-naked photo at the end of her piece.