<p>acollegestudent, if I were asexual in a world full of sexual beings, the first thing I would want to know is if there were any physical causes. The reason being that there are ABSOLUTELY physical reasons for a person feeling no interest in sex, hormonal disturbances being one of them. I don’t think it is at all out of line to suggest that someone who verbalizes that they are asexual should get checked out just to make sure that their bodies are working normally. I did know just such a person. When she was diagnosed and her hormones were balanced, she was immensely relieved and happy, particularly so because she was in love with a man who wanted to share a sexual relationship with her. If physical causes are ruled out, then sure, the person may feel vindicated and perfectly happy with their state of being. A family member had been sexually assaulted but never told anyone. She would be wracked with fear and anxiety at the prospect of dating anyone to the point of nausea and insomnia, sweating, and headaches. Once she finally told someone about this event, they were able to address her PTSD. This is clearly someone with physical symptoms with psychological roots who was not diseased or mentally ill, but dealing with a legitimate problem. </p>
<p>If it were my child who declared she was asexual, I wouldn’t want to just make the assumption that she was asexual vs. hormonally imbalanced. And if something in her past had influenced this vs. this is just how she rolls, I think it would be essential to know and address that as well.</p>