<p>People are “wired differently.” There are a lot of people on the Autism spectrum, or Highly Sensitive People who, in general, do not enjoy being touched. What is pleasurable to some may be overly intense, irritating, or even painful to others. Think of it as you would different preferences for other sensory experiences–spicy foods, for example, or thrill-seeking hobbies like sky-diving. It is hard to understand why someone else might not enjoy or seek out what you think is the greatest thing on earth.
People also have widely different feelings about the level of intimacy required for a sexual relationship. Some do not relate well to stereotypical gender roles (girly-girls/macho men) and wonder why adults can’t just be “human” instead of having sexual undertones in any exchange/relationship with someone of the opposite sex. Fine if they want to call themselves asexual. I suspect that many of them aren’t completely asexual–they just have different limits on their sexuality than the majority, and need the right partner to make it happen.</p>