<p>Absolutely no offense to you personally, but I find it extremely irritating when people use their age/life experience in any area to dismiss the ‘pronouncements’ of a person in their 20’s and say things change. For some people, maybe, and some people just know themselves and a lot of core values/identity doesn’t change, even if some more superficial things do. People have told me this about so many things (not even related to sexuality), and for most things nothing changed, and I am going to be 30 in a few years. I think people don’t need constant advice or for others to take it upon themselves to broaden the young person’s mind (it’s a little condescending) - I think people just need to be accepted for who they are with no constant anticipation of some change. </p>
<p>I think the same of asexual people. I think they and their health needs to be left alone (I am sure the idea of going to a doctor is something they can think of on their own), and no one should be trying to give them unsolicited advice on changing or anticipating change from them. If it happens, it can be dealt with when it does, but it’s kind of offensive to treat it as a phase. I am not asexual, so can’t speak for that, but I can tell you with absolute certainty that my own choices when it comes to sexuality have not and will not change - unfortunately, I guess I have to wait 20 years until you believe it, and it I would be pretty irritating if people were coming up to me calling a big part of my identity and value system something that will change in a few years - hasn’t changed in over a decade.</p>