When our oldest decided on BS we lived in Las Vegas and no-one we knew had any clue what BS was. We faced similar reactions. At first we tried to explain all the amazing opportunities BS would provide. We quickly realized this came across as defensive to some folks as if we were justifying our choice. Over the years we changed tactics to a “don’t engage” mentality. Just smile and nod- thanks for your concern- but it works for our family was the common refrain. Years later when one family member attended one if our kids graduation at PEA, they confided they now “got it”.
As for the dreaded drop off freshmen year, I can assure it isn’t the kids we should worry about- but definitely the parents. Some schools do arrange for new parents to meet at a local restaurant for a great bonding moment. If your school doesn’t arrange this/ reach out and ask if you can. We made many connections when we attended this type of event with our first drop off.
And make sure you give them plenty of space the first few weeks, let them lead the contact. When you do talk, just remember, that many times, they like to dump all their troubles on you (because you are a safe space) but then hang up the phone and go back on their merry way. Meanwhile you might be left fretting about how miserable they are. This is known as the swoop and poop- best to be prepared.