<p>[Philip</a> Guo - Attention: Overbearing Asian Parents](<a href=“http://www.stanford.edu/~pgbovine/asian-parents.htm]Philip”>http://www.stanford.edu/~pgbovine/asian-parents.htm)</p>
<p>I just read this article by Philip Guo, who’s a Ph.D student at Stanford, graduated undergrad at MIT. It was amazing and surprised me a lot. </p>
<p>What are your comments on it?</p>
<p>No big surprises here lol. The inflated position thing seems flawed though, as well as his twin at Harvard/state school thing. Parental prodding ain’t gonna get you into MIT, and twins are usually very similar. If one twin really did get into harvard and the other didn’t, there needs to be a big differences.</p>
<p>His hypothetical stuff doesn’t make much sense, but he does make points (albeit they are very cliched)</p>
<p>This is why I will marry a non-Asian even though I myself am Asian.</p>
<p>I cannot stand either the intimidation factor or our culture. Too conservative, too much pressure.</p>
<p>Even though I’m strongly against spanking, a little voice in my head always get a bit upset. “You’ve never even been beaten. Spanking is NOTHING.” </p>
<p>I somewhat hate my parents.</p>
<p>It is kind of funny that he keeps telling people that they do not belong at MIT/etc.</p>
<p>To the OP: Next time when you present material like this, make sure it’s very concise and to the point. Phew! What a long article! 
Im a very lazy guy, so i like to refrain from reading As much as possible.</p>
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<p>I think your own personality and experiences will lead you to be a less-overbearing parent, not the fact that you marry a non-Asian.</p>
<p>I dunno, I think it’d help to marry a non-Asian. I live in an area with lots of hypercompetitive Asians, and before I moved here, I lived in Korea for years. And somehow, I think I’ve been conditioned to like non-Asian girls more than Asian girls o.O. Probably because the majority of the Asian girls in my grade are very cutthroat and competitive. But then again, I go to a competitive school, so it might just be that EVERYONE is like that and I have some kinda selective stereotyping going on. Weird.</p>
<p>It just makes me sad to always hear about kids with those overbearing parents getting into very top colleges, only to be lost in drug abuse/ going crazy with freedom, and dropping out. There are a lot of kids who may not have as high SAT scores, but are a lot more self-motivated and driven to succeed that could have used those spots to their full potential. Sadly, there is no way for a college to see past the amazing stats and heart-felt essays written by parents to how to real student is.</p>
<p>generalization and exaggeration</p>
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<p>Not really. Alot of this stuff is true. Maybe it doesn’t apply to you and that’s why you’re arguing it’s a generalization. But I’ve had asian friends in the past that had parents like that. Now I don’t have any asian friends simply because I hate people that are driven to “perfection” in such ways.</p>
<p>Source: I’m asian on the outside and white on the inside.</p>
<p>Story of my life… and I hate the “You’ll be thankful one day”</p>
<p>Right…</p>
<p>Yeah, definitely not an exaggeration. There are some CRAZY parents. And note that it’s not always the Asians. I’ve seen some insane white parents, black parents, red parents, blue parents, purple parents, and whatever color they come in these days. But yeah, I have friends who get kicked out of the house and whatnot for getting a couple of Bs. Luckily, my parents are a bit more understanding. They do have their fair share of issues though, as all parents do.</p>
<p>that’s what is going on with me right now, whew the last two days I’m surprised I went through without punching some random person in the face.</p>
<p>I like this article. I think the best a parent can do is ENCOURAGE their child to enjoy what they’re learning, etc. They can only encourage and motivate their child to do stuff, not push them with force. That never works. I’m glad my Asian parents aren’t as nose-to-the-grindstone as others.</p>
<p>His constant use of cuss words make him seem like a prepubescent kid striving to impress his older brothers. Does he not know any adjectives?</p>
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Especially when he himself graduated from MIT. I’m not too convinced with his emphasis on the “intelligence index”. </p>
<p>“You’re better off at a state school if you have an intelligence index of 70” hahaha.</p>
<p>I do believe that there are some flaws including sweeping generalizations (which he admits) and the inflated position theory (which I do not agree with) in this article which may immediately turn some people off to the article and make them blind to some very pure truths which he states in this article. However, I believe one of the truest statements he makes is that:</p>
<p>“It’s that same old story of repression versus freedom. No longer under the stern watchful gaze of their parents, these kids can do whatever the hell they want. Having always been shielded by their overbearing parents during their teenage years, these kids don’t know about personal responsibility, integrity, and consideration for others, and will likely engage in activities that are hurtful for themselves…”</p>
<p>I wholeheartedly agree with this statement and believe that in my current situation being an extremely high achieving/competitive Asian girl in high school that I feel constantly smothered and repressed by my parents that I find myself actually looking forward to leaving for college in a year and being able to breathe and to, as Guo puts it, going “ass-wild.” I see the crazy and irresponsible things that my peers at my school do and somehow I envy them and the freedom that they have to do what they want and to experiment and to just BE. My parents do not ever let me out of their scrutinizing sight except to go to and from school and the plethora of useless extracurricular which I slave through let alone just BE with my friends and go places in my town and just have fun and sometimes get my chance to be an irresponsible teenager. I’m pretty sure that this smothering is stunting my emotional and personal growth, because I am so sheltered and repressed to the point that I’m not exposed to anything bad like experimenting with drinking or pot in high school that I find myself actually looking forward to college where I can finally be free of the weight that is my parents and I’m pretty sure that I’m going to go ass wild and crazy in college. Sometimes, I wish my parents would just let me BREATHE. I feel so trapped and depressed all the time. I don’t think this healthy and I wish my parents would just realize that all of their controlling me and forbidding me to even see the few friends that I have let (because they believe everyone is bad influence who’ll just distract me from my studies) is not necessary because I really am a good kid. I am so responsible that if given the chance in high school I would never touch stuff like drugs or alcohol but my parents have so little trust in me despite the enourmous amount of work and responsibility and sacrifice I make to be the best and become the perfect college candidate and to follow whatever they force upon me. I’m so frustrated when I see other kids at my school who just screw around during class and never spend any time working on anything get all the freedom they want to just spend their afternoons and weekends hanging out with friends and driving to fun places all over town while me on the other hand am treated with suspicion and distrust and hostility by my parents who don’t realize that I truly am a good kid and don’t realize that I do vastly more work than ANY of my peers and that I am driven to such a point to succeed that I am even driving myself physically sick and not sleeping to finish more work and to do more hw and to accomplish more. I wish my parents would appreciate what I do and to just give me space to just BREATHE.</p>
<p>^Tl;dr.</p>
<p>I don’t mean to sound mean, but the Asians I know IRL don’t whine this much, I mean, CC is whinier than real life, but seriously you guys.</p>
<p>^^You created an account just to necro a thread that is months old? And it wasn’t even a funny thread.</p>
<p>I have Asian parents, they don’t pressure me so much. Each person’s case is different. It’s unfair to generalize an entire community in one way or another.</p>