Is he interested in getting assessed? If he is, that’s great, but it may take a really long time to get in with an expert (around here over a year waiting list.) But even if he doesn’t want to get assessed, it may be useful to think of him in your own mind as being “neurodiverse” or “spectrum adjacent.” In my own extended family, only one member has an actual autism diagnosis, but it’s clear that many traits run in the family. I suspect at least a handful of us would qualify for the diagnosis if we went to the trouble of getting formally evaluated. By the way, none of us have ever been behavior problems, quite the opposite! (Meltdowns are loud, why would we want to do that? Better to just get the situation over with as fast as possible so others will leave you alone.)
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