<p>I’ve always thought of myself as being introverted and a bit socially awkward. I’ve always thought that I have no social life, but I’m curious to see what an actual average social life is. How often do you go out with friends, how many close friends do you have, etc. </p>
<p>Got about 15 people I’d consider really good friends, and I meet them outside of school at least once a month (used to be MUCH more before HS and before we split ways into different a HSs). </p>
<p>I don’t have any close friends but lots of friends in general because I just moved to a new school, so I don’t meet anyone out of school and barely text people about social stuff. But I have one family friend that my whole family hangs out with. They have children similar ages to my siblings and they are both from the same country as us. No one my age though.</p>
<p>But people at my school, there “average” for social life is going to a party or rave every weekend, going to friend’s houses a lot, text and gossip, be very cliquey etc. etc. and that is just the popular kids. The more academic students have lots of friends and a few close friends, but they meet up like once a week</p>
<p>I go out with my boyfriend about every other weekend, but I meet up with the rest of my friends much less often than that.
Less than ten close friends. </p>
<p>I wasn’t average at all, but I think you just want to know that you’re not alone. I’m extremely shy, but I don’t consider myself introverted. I love being around other people whenever I can overcome my shyness enough to put up with them. </p>
<p>In ninth and tenth grades I didn’t have any friends at school, and I just went home after school and messed around on the Internet. At the beginning of freshman year I still had a friend from my old middle school, but she lived far away and I only saw her a few times a year, so we eventually drifted apart. In eleventh grade I started talking to more people in my classes, and there were a few girls I would have considered acquaintances, but I sat alone at lunch all three years. </p>
<p>I’m a senior now, and I take all my classes at a local university. I somehow got a boyfriend and now he’s my only friend. We study together a few times a week and go out to a coffee shop maybe every two weeks or so. I live with my little cousins and hang around with them a lot, if that counts.</p>
<p>I go to a tiny school so I have basically known everyone since kindergarten. I have a small group of friends who I eat lunch with (never in the lunchroom though) and who I go out with 2-4 times a month. I have a best girl friend who I hang out with a lot and text every day and a best guy friend who I don’t actually see all that much. I am very lucky that I have these people though because I am extremely socially awkward and have many fears about calling people etc. They try to help me out so hopefully I can build a strong social base in college. </p>
<p>I am a parent crashing this thread because I am also curious. My husband is from another culture and claims our kids have no social life. He claims there were weekly parties when he grew up. It is true there was less parental interference and no drinking age. Kids could walk or take public transit to get together. (Think Europe)</p>
<p>I had lots of ups and downs in HS. Always someone to eat lunch with. Periods of lots of outside of school activity, periods with nothing. I was shy and introverted. I pretty much always had one or two close friends, sometimes a boyfriend. College was better.</p>
<p>Older son had a little group of about five-six friends who did things together a few times a month. There was one girl who organized them to go out and do cool things like try new dive restaurants. They played Ultimate whenever the weather was nice. Always someone to eat lunch with. Plays those online role playing games infrequently but intensively. Learning to drive was pivotal for him. College is better.</p>
<p>Younger son has one or two close friends, goes out once or twice a month. Used to play tons of online games, esp with boy down the street which was hilarious because they lived so close. Plays sport intensely year round so much time on that and with teammates. </p>
<p>I came to high school knowing literally 2 people (in a school of ~1,800). My social skills used to be an absolute disaster.</p>
<p>My social life was nonexistent during freshman year, pathetic during sophomore year, below average during junior year, and is now great during senior year. I’ve made a much larger circle of friends and usually have stuff to do on the weekends and some weeknights, where I used to just sit at home playing World of Warcraft or something. I’m now a lot more outgoing, I’m a leader, etc. I’m grateful for all the friends I’ve been able to make and greatly enjoy spending time with people now.</p>
<p>I have very little social life. I’m in school or in transit for about eleven hours a day and I spend the rest of my time doing homework or going on the internet. All of the communication I get with my friends is chatting with them online. On Saturdays I have Shabbat, when I either hole up and read books the whole day or visit one of my friends. On Sundays I’m doing homework or doing normal life stuff like shopping. Almost never with friends, especially as most of them live at least ~30 miles from my house. Most of our out-of-school interaction is when people stay over at other people’s houses on weekends. Of my three friends in the area, besides the one I visit on Shabbat, I only really go places with one of them and that’s only because she literally shows up at the door and shleps me out.
Basically, I fail at life.</p>
<p>I don’t have any friends.</p>
<p>I have a fairly large group of friends. I would consider about 10 or so close. I try to have some sort of plans for every weekend and sometimes during the week, after Track, I will go out to eat with a few friends. I would consider this the average social life of people at my high school. I still have time to study and do homework, but I think going out and having fun is important too. When I look back at high school, I don’t want it to just be memories of me sitting at home, studying my life away.</p>
<p>I have 8 or so close friends, and I’m friendly with a circle of about 20 others, so things like lunch or class are never awkward or lonely. But it’s not like I have a super active social life, we mostly hang out at clubs after school and in the summer we meet up for concerts and sleepovers. It can be hard to find a time that works for everyone during the school year because we’re all CC types 
Your social life obviously depends on your group of friends. I know kids who smoke/drink together every weekend or even school nights, or who hang out with college kids a lot, but the average popular kid at my school goes to a couple of raves and a few house parties a year. If you’re athletic then you spend a lot of time with your team mates and you go to their parties. If you’re a geek or a robotics kid you play video games together every week. But honestly as long as you have a few close friends it doesn’t matter where you go or how often you hang out, as long as you keep a little time for fun stuff in between all the school.</p>
<p>Keep in mind that your data on the average high school student’s social life may be skewed a little bit when looking on here, since many of the students on site are really involved in academics and other activities and have less time for socializing.</p>
<p>Anyways, I try to hang out with someone every weekend on Friday and, ideally, Saturday. During debate season, this will definitely not be the case. Sometimes there’ll be days when I hang out with someone during the school week after school when I don’t have too much homework. I kind of concur with what someone else said about not wanting to look at high school with memories of sitting home and studying. I’d rather have fun and stay up later doing homework if I have to. </p>
<p>I’m a bit of a mix on the introvert/extrovert, but tend to lean to introversion, personally. I don’t like people much and kind of think they’re petty (and I know I am, too).</p>
<p>I love my friends (I have about six or seven real, close friends; huge social group of percussion and marching band). I don’t get out much due to band and percussion, but I always have fun there, so I don’t feel like I’m withering away in my room. My peers are my intellectual peers, not necessarily my age peers.</p>
<p>I guess the norm at my school (which I am not) would be to drink and go to parties on the weekend. There are a lot of drugs at my school (marijuana and prescription), but I don’t hang out with those people, but I know there a lot of them.</p>
<p>The only reason I’m as social as I am is because my school has 600 (geeky) people, and if you don’t know somebody, you know a someone that knows them. A lot of people tell me that I know like, everyone, but I really don’t. I used to be introverted, but being in a small, comfortable school actually helps to bring people out of their shells. I would say that I have a lot of close friends, and a lot of not-so-close friends. I don’t hang out much outside of school, but that’s mostly because the people that go to my school come from all around the county, so it’s hard to meet up.</p>
<p>Oh that’s interesting! I guess I’m not quite far from the norms now. I actually do have friends I sit and chat with at lunch, and a group of 5 close friends that I usually hang out with, and a couple of people I can text daily with. However, I don’t go out a lot, usually once a month or less. It’s not that I don’t have friends, it’s just that it’s hard for me to make friends since I’m not always talkative or always perky like others. And the fact that I’ve just moved to the area 3 years ago makes it more challenging to make good, substantial friends. But I guess my social life isn’t far from the norms either. </p>
<p>I have about 6 really close friends, but also have friends from various activities as well as the whole team aspect from sports. The school week is pretty much tied up with academics and EC’s, but we do spend time together on the weekends.</p>
<p>@Lizardly I would say your husband is correct. As a European going to school in America, European parents, at least on the continent, are less restrictive than American parents. Additionally the laws in Europe on things like drinking are less stringent than in the U.S. That said, I’m not familiar with any HS aged person whose parents don’t allow him/her to ride public transportation to meet up with friends. Or were you stating that in your part of the country, parents need to drive their kids everywhere because there is no alternative?</p>
<p>@thealvintran
I sometimes have trouble making friends, too. My issue is being put into a new place for the first time. I just feel awkward, like I don’t really belong. During freshman year, I was sitting alone with my friend from middle school for two weeks, while everyone else was establishing themselves into social clicks. (She was really more shy than I, but my friend was the reason I met a lot of my best friends.)</p>
<p>A lot of friends. We hang out and stuff. No girlfriend (;-;). Some of my friends wants to smoke with them. I’ve considered to alleviate some stress.</p>
<p>Ski, we live in a spread out place with not so great public transportation. Bike lanes are in their infancy. Cars are required for people to get together. That’s why when kids get their drivers licenses their social lives can change so dramatically.
I think parents are more nervous here, though, and that makes it harder for kids to get together. Where my husband is from kids stay out later and report back home less. Kids have more of a wholly separate life.</p>