<p>Check out Americorp. See if you can hold your acceptance till next year.</p>
<p>It occurs to me that perhaps the school can set this young man up with a social worker who may have some ideas for him to pursue. No one knows better about available resources.</p>
<p>OP,
What have you done to follow up on our suggestions? Have you talked yet to the school that admitted you? Have you talked to your GC? Those probably are your best resources.</p>
<p>I don’t really want to involve many people as I am embarrassed of the situation and my parents back home…I live in a rich suburb…so i don’t want to be the talk of the town…umm but i have called and left a message for an adviser at alabama. Also, my parents have not filled out a fafsa and obviously will not pay any of my college fee’s/expenses/tuition…so if i were to be admitted into an ivy…what should I do…and should i be talking to them right now?</p>
<p>You need to send an explanatory e-mail to an admissions officer at Alabama. It’s very hard to get into telephone contact with h.s. students due to students’ hours not coinciding with the hours when college faculty/staff work. In addition, it would be hard for you to be able to explain things on the call due to privacy issues – such as your being at home or with friends when the call came.</p>
<p>No reason to talk to any colleges about your situation unless they admit you. If your parents won’t fill out financial aid paperwork, it will be difficult to impossible for you to get need-based financial aid.</p>
<p>Talking to your GC makes sense. It’s unlikely that would make you the talk of the town. GCs know all sorts of personal things about their students, and aren’t supposed to share such info with people at large. More than likely the GC or guidance department has helped students who are in similar situations as you are. Alabama (and other colleges) also may wish to contact your GC about your situation before offering your assistance such as summer housing help.</p>
<p>GCs have been extremely helpful with students whom I know who have had situations similar to yours.</p>
<p>As I mentioned before, I’ve known students who moved in with friends’ families due to major problems with their families. This included one person whose father was molesting her, a person whose mother was physically abusive, and other students who had major family problems. Moving in with a friend for the summer and school breaks probably is the best option for your situation.</p>
<p>People are far less concerned about your personal life than you fear, and probably could not care less whether you’re living at home or elsewhere. They have their own personal lives to be concerned with. You’re getting ready to move away to college anyway, so what does it matter if people talk about you?</p>
<p>Repeatedly bumping this isn’t likely to lead to more useful solutions than what you’ve already received. You need to follow up on what has been suggested.</p>
<p>It also would be good if you’d tell someone – us or your GC – why your parents are disowning you. The extent and kind of help you get probably will depend on that. It’s likely colleges will want to know that info, too. Parents disowning a student because they don’t want the student to move away from home to go to college, they don’t like the students’ religion or because the student is gay are very different situations than, for instance, parents disowning a student due to the student’s having a major drug problem.</p>
<p>its partially the cultural aspect of moving away from home…but mainly my parents have serious letting go problems…and actually are refusing to let me go till i get married</p>
<p>let me guess- your parents are originally from Pakistan? India?</p>
<p>It isn’t easy to stand up against the parents you love, but follow your educational dreams. They will come around as soon as they get over the initial shock and see you are successful.</p>