<p>Most recent update: Tiger daugher accepted by both Yale and Harvard.</p>
<p>[Tiger</a> Mom Vindicated! Daughter Gets Into Harvard, Proving Chinese Mothers Are…Superior? | The Blaze](<a href=“http://www.theblaze.com/stories/tiger-mom-vindicated-daughter-gets-into-harvard-proving-chinese-mothers-are-superior/]Tiger”>http://www.theblaze.com/stories/tiger-mom-vindicated-daughter-gets-into-harvard-proving-chinese-mothers-are-superior/)</p>
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<p>I’d be interested to see whether she ends up in therapy at 30+ because of her parents, media notoriety, and probably finding herself in a “prestigious career” she ends up hating and yet stuck in because she’s invested too much to just quit. </p>
<p>Also, how much of that is really “Tiger parenting” and how much is due to special consideration given to children of faculty members?</p>
<p>It would have been VERY awkward if the daughter did not get into Harvard, given the timing of the book. Counting your chickens before they hatch and all.</p>
<p>With a Jewish father and an Asian mother, both professors at Yale, one pushy and the other diplomatic, what do you expect? The daughter is likely to be bright and capable of handling her parents easily, i.e., no damages done by the mother, IMO.</p>
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<p>That will validate those who diss TigerMom’s parenting style and jealous of the family’s success.</p>
<p>Nope, I think Tigergirl will grow up to be very well adjusted and successful and happy young lady. I know a lot of people who have it all and they are very happy.</p>
<p>However, the daughter is a double legacy at Harvard, and is the subject of an “interesting story”, so she is not just another anonymous violin or piano playing Asian American applicant that HYPetc. probably sees a lot of.</p>
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<p>There is no validation nor vindication! The girl was probably admitted in SPITE of her parents’ boot camp. </p>
<p>This will only encourage an army of parents every bit as loony as that author to emulate this tragedy of an upbringing.</p>
<p>*jealous of the family’s success.
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I am calling this the good mother syndrome, after this excellent piece by Caitlin Flanagan:</p>
<p>[The</a> Ivy Delusion - Magazine - The Atlantic](<a href=“http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/print/1969/12/the-ivy-delusion/8397/]The”>The Ivy Delusion - The Atlantic)</p>
<p>The result was pretty well predicted by Charles Murray here:</p>
<p>[Amy</a> Chua Bludgeons Entire Generation of Sensitive Parents, Bless Her The Enterprise Blog](<a href=“http://blog.american.com/?p=24765]Amy”>http://blog.american.com/?p=24765)</p>
<p>I think he has a point. When you have a grandpa who fathered nonlinear circuit theory and cellular neural networks, a mother who graduated magna cum laude from Harvard, a father who is a summa cum laude from Princeton and a chaired professor at Yale Law, you have a pedigree that few can match.</p>
<p>Hard work helps, but the right genetics is crucial.</p>
<p>Hard work helps, but the right genetics is crucial.</p>
<p>Yes, in a nutshell.</p>
<p>My kids are smart, partly because they have really smart grandparents. One was an MIT genius who has quite a few patents (his father had even more). Talent abounds on all sides. </p>
<p>But as I always told their teachers at conferences, my kids also worked hard. Did their homework instead of watching TV. Did their best work on papers & projects. Simple, really.</p>
<p>I hated it when people told me in HS–“you’re so smart, you don’t have to study.” Negating all the hard work I did to get As instead of Bs or worse. My son’s Spanish teacher was truly puzzled when I complained that he never studied. He was pulling Bs and I knew he could do better…besides, in a cumulative subject such as language, Bs eventually become Cs when your ignorance catches up to you. I could tell she thought I was some sort of wacko.</p>
<p>:rolleyes:</p>
<p>Why not insist all children should do their best? That’s the standard we want our teachers to hold our children to.</p>
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<p>Replace the NCLB law with it, and everyone will be happy.</p>
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<p>No jealously. Just musing based on several real life examples of such parenting who are now in therapy and/or facing existential crises because such hothouse parenting pushed them to career paths that were more their parents’ dreams than their own. </p>
<p>Quite timely considering the existential meltdowns I’ve been seeing among some doctor/ibanker/lawyer FB friends just within the last week.</p>
<p>I don’t think Sophia’s acceptances to Harvard (double legacy) and Yale (child of 2 profs) vindicate Tiger Mom. A Princeton admission wouldn’t do it either as Sophia is also a legacy there (Dad’s undergrad).</p>
<p>If Sophia was admitted to Stanford she’d have a better argument.</p>
<p>Stanford is so nouveau :-)</p>
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<p>Sorry, not buying this. You are not their psychologist and I doubt any professional posts any of these in their FB.</p>
<p>Schadenfreude much?</p>
<p>Do you think Sophia applied to any safeties? We will probably never know as it would be too embarrassing for mom.</p>
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<p>Why couldn’t the book have been delayed? Maybe she had a likely letter to an acceptable school? Do you think she consulted with her daughters before publication?</p>
<p>She applied at Yale EA and RD at Harvard and UVA. When Yale came through she withdrew from UVA. I read somewhere.</p>
<p>Not applying anywhere else might’ve helped her classmates’ chances. Very nice.</p>
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<p>Consulted with her daughters? That’d be such a novel concept.</p>
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<p>Care to explain what you mean by this?</p>
<p>Re: timing of the book</p>
<p>Perhaps the timing of the book and WSJ piece may have been intended to favorably influence the admissions committees. Basically, it made the applicant a celebrity and an “interesting story”, rather than “just another one of many Asian American applicants who plays violin or piano as her main extracurricular activity” (though the legacy hook helps also).</p>
<p>xiggi,The fact that some posters believe that Sophia will somehow be unhappy and/or in psychotherapy due to her upbringing. The fact this is brought up indicates some form of glee and “just wait”. Why can’t you celebrate their success?</p>