<p>Male and female comfort levels re cleanliness in bathrooms may differ substantially. I’d love to have separate bathrooms, but most two bedroom apartments would only have one.</p>
<p>clarifying: one person sleeping in the living room, one in the bedroom.</p>
<p>2 bedrooms would probably make your parents feel more comfortable about the whole arrangement…</p>
<p>Get your parents to watch Four Weddings and a Funeral (if they haven’t already). In that movie, a young Hugh Grant has a female apartment mate, and it doesn’t seem awkward in the least.</p>
<p>That said, it bothers me that you are not 100% comfortable with your proposed living arrangement. Perhaps you would be more comfortable if you brought in a third person and sought a two- or three-bedroom apartment. If it was a two-bedroom, the two people of the same gender could share the larger bedroom. Groups are sometimes more comfortable than a one-girl, one-guy situation. </p>
<p>Full disclosure: My daughter lives off-campus with another girl and a guy in a three-bedroom apartment.</p>
<p>“. . .he is one of those people who can spend every evening after homework is done on the internet in a windowless room, not talking to anyone (he lives very much that way now and has no roommates this year).”</p>
<p>So, you’re planning on moving in with MY SON, are you? Good luck with that. ;)</p>
<p>Discuss and agree on sleeping arrangements/cleaning/cooking, etc. ahead of time. (Do you really know this guy’s lifestyle? Is he expecting YOU to clean up after him?) Do you have the same standards? What if you have a boyfriend/he gets a girlfriend? Talk about how that will be handled–especially if there is only one bedroom (that could be a deal breaker, IMO).</p>
<p>Are you sure this guy doesn’t “like” you? It is hard to live with a guy and be “close friends” with him without one of you–the guy, especially-- starting to think of romantic possibilities in the relationship. (I cringe when I think of a couple terribly awkward experiences I had with 2 different male “friends” I shared a room/house with. . .) I wonder about this particular guy since he’s not that social. He may ignore you, or he may become emotionally dependent on you because you are one of the few live human beings he has contact with. (If you scramble him some eggs and say “good morning” to him a couple times, he may propose marriage 
)</p>
<p>Proceed with caution.</p>
<p>haha, atomom the truth is I don’t see the possibility of a relationship as a risk because he seems to have issues with emotional intimacy. I have tried to hang out with him as a friend more and talk a bit, but he usually turns down the possibility, and has actually claimed he has a “quota” for how many times a month he sees his friends (apparently I maxed out at 2 last month :)). Whether it is just a somewhat (autistic?) disinterest in making conversation or a hidden fear of getting hurt I don’t know, but it doesn’t bother me anymore and at the least it reinforces the platonic barrier.</p>
<p>I would like to get two bedrooms, but I just don’t think it’s in his price range. I will look though. As for the possible boyfriend/girlfriends thing, he was my ex boyfriend’s old roommate and dealt with me coming over a lot pretty well so there is at least some experience with that between us.</p>
<p>Thanks for the advice on what to work out with him beforehand if this actually happens (still a thought, though we are researching), although he’s not misogynist enough to think I’ll clean up after him, lol.</p>
<p>Oh, and to add I’m afraid a third person won’t work since he’s not up for living with strangers, and we know of no friends who are also apartment hunting. I honestly think it would be easier to just adjust to him though, not an additional person with their own quirks and habits.</p>