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<p>hahaha, hit up some frat parties dude, you will see. Its not like guys are the only ones looking for one-nighters. Most girls want one-nighters too.</p>
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<p>Well, its sounds good! Just make sure that you premeds wear a lot of protections. Otherwise, you would be a patient before becoming a doctor. ;)</p>
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I agree. I am also confident that the first prophylactic layer for a couple of these dudes will be their personality.</p>
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<p>After I stop choking from laughter…</p>
<p>'mudge, may be you best post/comment ever… :)</p>
<p>stupid fools</p>
<p>^ You appear to be one of those who are very level-headed.</p>
<p>However, in one of your posts in the past, you seem to have said girls like mature boys. Because most boys tend to grow more slowly (many of them need to set aside too much time playing video games so they have less time to “grow up” :)), does this mean girls tend to like boys who are a couple of years older than them?</p>
<p>One girl in high school fell in love with a very mature boy for his age because his parents essentially had not been able to care about him since middle school and he needed to take care of himself very early on. A problem is: He dropped out of high school in order to earn money to feed himself and she went on to a “good” college. It was a headache for girl’s parents. I hope they have separated as I heard the dude even did drugs later on and tried to pass this to her.</p>
<p>That girl once mentioned one reason she likes that boy: “He is mature, unlike most immature high school boys.” (“He knows a lot about the real world which a typical high school kid would not know.”)</p>
<p>I hope girls could still give some immature boys some chances – they may be immature just because they are from a well-protective family and therefore do not have the “life-experience” like the dude I just mentioned. When they are in college and far away from their protective parents, they still have a chance to grow up there and become mature. However, I heard girls tend to dislike boys who are not very “confident” and all the “alpha-males” who got girls easily seem to be very confident of themselves.</p>
<p>Dearest Curm, if you are accurately a 4 for looks, you have to add 2-3 more for sense of humour and writing ability! </p>
<p>Guts- I don’t recall if you rated yourself, but it is pretty common to see couples who are about the same, if one must be so crass as to rank each other, looks + personality, etc. So, the old or ugly guy with money and the hot young girl, etc. Look for people you enjoy, not people who are ‘hot’</p>
<p>Guts- if you are unhappy with who you are or who you seem to represent yourself to be, that inherent dissatisfaction could be an unattractive feature of your personality. Many teens who I watched grow up were unhappy teens (pretty common state of mind) but later stopped trying to be the person society told them to be and instead discovered their passions and pursued them. Now many of those kids are very appealing to be with, they are interesting and fun.</p>
<p>O.K. O.K. Maybe I am more of a 3. ;). I have no idea what my actual attractiveness is on a scale. Never really concerned me. Once you get below Brad Pitt or whoever the hunk of the week is, you better bring something else to the table. JMO.</p>
<p>Oh my God. This is HILARIOUS! Gutsandglory117’s comments brought this bit of dialogue from The Social Network, in the scene where Zuckerberg and Erica (his girlfriend) break up, to mind: </p>
<p>Erica: “You’re going to go through life thinking that girls don’t like you because you’re a nerd. And I want you to know, from the bottom of my heart, that that won’t be true. It’ll be because you’re an @$$h0l3.” </p>
<p>Seriously? Stop likening human interaction to “Schroeder’s Cat” and treating people like dirt and maybe, just maybe, you’ll get laid before age 25. </p>
<p>Sorry to all for reprising this thread but I had to express my incredulity that people like Gutsandglory117 even exist.</p>
<p>@ dragonzo:</p>
<p>I’m not linking the cat analogy to human interaction at all. That just shows that you haven’t grasped the crux of that post. Thus you aren’t even worth responding too.</p>
<p>And to the other person who asked I am South Asian, my exact nationality isn’t necessary. It doesn’t even matter because attractive south asian women in the west never go for south Asian men, as has been my experience. </p>
<p>@ somemom: thanks for the advice. </p>
<p>I need to be with a woman who I am attracted too, being in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship is a terrible reason and causes pain to the person involved. I have no intention of hurting anyone and thus cannot be happy in a relationship with a woman unless she fits my physical, personal, and emotional standards.</p>
<p>As I mentioned earlier, I have been doing what I like for a while, I have been courteous, had good times around friends, funny, etc, but every time I hoped that something would happen, that I would have a woman who I liked be an integral part of my life, it was not so. I wondered what it was about me. I work out, I have friends, I have sophisticated interests, yet on some level none of that seems to matter because I always end up alone and I hate it sometimes. When I see happy couples everytime I go out or see my friends in relationships, it pains me greatly. I know it’s not that big of a deal, yet some part of me can’t seem to stop wanting a loving a healthy relationship despite my efforts to get it out of my head. Is it wrong of me to want that? Maybe, I’m not really too sure.</p>
<p>What I do know is that attractive women in med school have extremely high standards when it comes to men, so why should they choose a man like me who has never had any success with this when there are plenty of others? </p>
<p>Why am I unable to progress with this despite however much I progress myself?</p>
<p>The pain is a mere annoyance sometimes and it flickers away, other times it is like getting hit with a canon, such vast pain that I am consumed by it.</p>
<p>I have been reading and traveling recently to distract myself and arrived at some conclusions:</p>
<p>1) what we feel is a result of what we control in our minds. Quantum mechanics has revealed that certain physical characteristics are relative qualities, indistinguishable unless there is a metric or scale to measure them. Thoughts too require a scale or metric to hold meaning. Without any frame, thoughts are meaningless, and we can control the frame we are in. Our ability to control our thoughts is a scientific ability built in all of us. This thought brought me comfort.</p>
<p>2) I have come to the conclusion after traveling and seeing natural beauties of earth that no matter how beautiful a woman is, no matter how many times she shuns me away, her beauty is dwarfed by the power of niagra falls, the vastness of the ocean, the tranquility of a valley, and the imposing awe of a mountain. No human can compare to the beauty of nature. This thought brought me peace and tranquility to an otherwise war of emotions raging on in me.</p>
<p>3). My list of goals will help me achieve my bliss, when I am in my bliss I am happy. When I am happy my loneliness holds no meaning. As I go through the list of goals and achieve each on of them, I get addicted to that feeling of victory, of worthiness, the feeling that I can and do matter despite how pathetic other people my look at me. This thought has given me the strength to put back together the shattered pieces of myself. Knowledge is power indeed, and also salvation.</p>
<p>Fair enough. I didn’t wade through the novel you wrote on Schrodinger’s experiment and how you feel it is analogous to your conflicting internal and external states. Perhaps now that I’ve gone back and actually read your posts in full, I’ve once again misinterpreted the content (I am but a lowly computer science grad, after all). However, whatever your analogy does or doesn’t mean really wasn’t my point. </p>
<p>You simply need to chill the @#$* out. </p>
<p>Try to stop obsessing over this matter. You’re inquisitive, smart and apparently have some killer abs. If you let those qualities speak for themselves, you will be successful romantically. Women (and men, I’d imagine) do not find rampant insecurity or arrogance attractive though. I think this might be the crux of your problem if you do indeed speak down to people in real life and not just in forum posts. Learn to chat a girl up. That much is imperative. </p>
<p>No, you shouldn’t force yourself to be in a relationship just to be in a relationship. That’s terrible. But I do personally think that you’re selling a lot of fine women short. There might be an intelligent “7” (or even <em>gasp</em> a “6”!) out there with a great personality who you’d hit it off with. But you’ll never know if that person is out there if you don’t give less than perfect or near-perfect women a chance. </p>
<p>I’d like to point out that by not responding to me you, um, did respond to me. I’m not sure if I now merit another response but good luck in your future endeavors and what not.</p>
<p>I appreciate your input.</p>
<p>It is one of the great ironies is it not? To acknowledge a lack of response is itself a response. Many of our actions are paradoxical in nature, a lack of a response is a response, a lack of a thought maybe a thought, inaction may itself be construed as an action. This of course has no relevance to this, but is just mind boggling to think about.</p>
<p>I hate it when people say to me that I need to calm down and I need to stop obsessing. I have been calm and I have stopped obsessing for a while now and when everyone else has success it is hard in human nature to be the odd one out and stay calm. People are not calm when they are in pain. If I got shot should I be calm? Should I stop obsessing over it?</p>
<p>Looks, talking up, have done nothing for me in the past and I don’t expect any different in the future. I am not intelligent, my gpa is very bad but thanks anyway. But none of this ultimately even matters. If I am to be lonely then that is how it shall be. I have my bliss, and when I am blissful and ignorant of that pain then it holds no more meaning. Even if I am a loner in med school it will be no different than how I am now, the only difference is that I will have achieved my bliss then, so I will be a blissful fool and live with bearable pain rather than be aware and live with self-destructive pain :). </p>
<p>As another poster said, this thread has reached its limit and should be closed.</p>