<p>This is where your son’s ability to negotiate social situations gets tested. </p>
<p>We’ve been very lucky with goaliegirl as she has a good sense of who is trouble and who is not. She takes a couple of weekends a year now (not in the early grades), but actually is too busy with things to have too many opportunities anyway.</p>
<p>If your son (or you for that matter) don’t have confidence in the ability to pick out “low risk” weekend hosts, I might recommend that you develop a list of people your son might be interested in visiting and email it to a couple of seasoned teachers who have these students. Make sure you preface the note as “which of these would be the student/family where your son would most likely be well supervised (or which to avoid?)” Most teachers at boarding schools know who is trouble waiting to happen and will steer you to the best of their knowledge. You should do this work (as opposed to your son), as the parental level of concern will exact a more careful response.</p>
<p>Remember, you have the final say in where/when he gets to go off-campus.</p>