It’s October. She needs to pin down her preferences and put a list together soon. I had to adjust to “Listen more and talk less” with my kids for this process. At the end of the day fit is crucial.
We also live in PA. My requirement for both sons was to apply to at least one in-state flagship. One applied to Pitt and Temple. The other Pitt and PSU. Good schools, lots of majors and affordable. You can always decline an acceptance but no do-overs for not applying. Neither attended but would’ve been ok if forced.
Party school reputation is overrated. Kids can find parties or not find parties at any school. S21 graduated from FSU. Usually a high ranking party school. He found many other activities there. If you fall into the party crowd it’s not the school’s fault.
Finances are almost always an issue. You mentioned you have another student in the wings. Please offer them the same parameters and options. If you’re willing to spend $400k for Villanova will you do the same for 2nd child? I’ve seen this play out several times. Always hurt feelings.
Good luck