<p>“Forced to eat ice cream” is an oxymoron to me. 
But, you’re probably right. Thank you.</p>
<p>My Mom, to me, " ______ you’ll find what you are looking for if you just clean your room!" This seems to apply to desks at work too.</p>
<p>“it does no good to worry about something you can’t control”</p>
<p>If someone is way too nice, way too soon, they are probably a sociopath (my non professional opinion)</p>
<p>Trust your intuition about people; it is a safety mechanism. If you just feel like there is something kind of off about someone, even if you can’t explain it to yourself, trust that feeling. I wish someone had told me that when I was young.</p>
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<p>That is a great piece of advice and the next time any of my kids complain that they had a big fight with their friends, I am going to say exactly that!</p>
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<p>I’ll find true love and the meaning of life if I clean my room? Cool!</p>
<p>Mantori, </p>
<p>I think that is possible, especially for women. If you clean your room you might find the mate to your missing Manolo’s! There are many women who can relate a good pair of shoes to true love and the meaning of life…look at SITC, Carrie loved her shoes, and it was the pr that was lost that got her Mr. Big ;)</p>
<p>My sisters favorite advice to everyone was more about who she was than anything else.</p>
<p>She had the 3 F rule.
- Don’t F*** with her Famliy
- Don’t F*** with her Friends
- Don’t F*** with her Finances</p>
<p>If you kept that in mind, you would have a great friendship, if you didn’t…all I can say is that cliche Hell hath no Fury is an understatement for what you would be feeling :eek:</p>
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I have to admit I read this wrong the first time I read it (I left a “n” and a “e” out fo the pennies)</p>
<p>To give a plug to CC … “love the child on your coach”</p>
<p>And mine is even college related!</p>
<p>I had a sales rep in talking to me about advertising and we started chatting about our high school seniors and their college plans. Her daughter has applied and been accepted to a public university in Alaska. They do have a specific major that she wants. We are in southern New England. She has also applied and been accepted to a public university in our area. With the same major. Both schools are well respected.</p>
<p>The daughter is insisting on Alaska. The mom is frantic. </p>
<p>My advice was to call the local school and ask about the fall back position. What if she declines their offer in favor of Alaska … and then changes her mind. In June? In August? Next January? Would she be able to be re-admitted or transfer?</p>
<p>My rep called me yesterday to thank me for the inspiration to call the local school and have a heart to heart with them. They’ll keep her app on file … and she is not burning bridges by exploring the Alaskan frontier!</p>
<p>I hope Alaska works out for her … but i am so glad to have passed on the idea of checking out the options if it doesn’t.</p>
<p>“Preach daily; speak if necessary.”</p>
<p>“Overplan, then go with the flow.”</p>
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<p>Swimcatsmom! LOL…</p>
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Gosh this is so very very true. The human animal tends to talk themselves out of trusting their instincts (to be polite sometimes). And sometimes I think we teach our children to not follow their instincts. </p>
<p>I was just thinking about this very thing the other day because of something unpleasant that happened in my daughters life a while back. I sensed her discomfort around a certain person and talked to her about it. I had to tell her to trust her instincts. I realized I had not only never said that to her before, but I had probably spent a good part of her life telling her to be nice and polite to people and not balanced it with how to react when people overstep certain boundaries. The worst thing is that I had been very uncomfortable about the person involved from the day we met them but other people talked me into ignoring my instincts. I continued to feel uncomfortable but kept ignoring that little voice. If I had followed my instincts then my daughter might never have ended up in the uncomfortable situation. (and one of the people who talked me into ignoring my instincts later told me their own daughter was also very uncomfortable round this person).</p>
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<p>In her pre-Girl Scout Leader life, my mom was a contract psychologist and behavioral analyst for the federal government. She’s chatted about traveling to Jerusalem and Rome and London, and how one time when she was in Israel, she had four armed body guards flanking her wherever she went, and how her main job was to negotiate hostage situations. She wouldn’t talk about much else, and she never talked about specifics, but my brother delved into her history and found that she’d received highest civilian commendations from the US Army.</p>
<p>She taught us to be kind to people always, SCM, a lot like you did with your daughter. She’d talk to anybody, too… Homeless folks on the street, people whose cars had broken down by the side of the road, people who’d been in car accidents, children who appeared to be lost… Anybody who looked like they needed help.</p>
<p>The one time that I ever in my life saw her go against that was once when we were taking the bus to downtown, when my brother and I were probably nine and twelve years old. A man got onto the crowded bus and sat down a few seats away from us. After about ten seconds, my mom casually said, “aibarr, come sit over here by me,” and when I protested, she said, “NOW…” I moved. She took my brother’s and my hands and led us off the bus at the next stop. When the bus started to pull away, I asked her, “What was that all about?” She shook her head and said, “There was something about that guy. It’s okay now. We’ll just take the next bus.”</p>
<p>As casual as she tried to be about it, it absolutely scared the wadding out of me. That experience, in a matter of minutes, taught me all I needed to know about tempering my good will and paying attention to the little voice inside my head.</p>
<p>I would imagine that your daughter pays plenty of attention to her instincts now, SCM, and I’m sure that she’s learned well… It only takes one lesson like that to make you more aware of that instinctual sense. It’s the kindness that’s so hard to instill in a person, and it sounds like you took care of that very well.</p>
<p>From my wise and warm mom:</p>
<p>“Put things in perspective - if it’s not going to be important in a year, it’s not a big deal today so don’t sweat it.”</p>
<p>and the mantra I try to live by</p>
<p>“Be grateful - you can’t feel unhappy if you’re feeling grateful.”</p>
<p>Once , shame on you.
Twice, shame on me.</p>
<p>My D is good about “paying attention to her instincts.” We honor that and are happy that it has saved her great pain (tho it does cause her pain because she DOES feel ambient psychic pain as well).</p>
<p>Airbarr, glad you heeded your mom. People DO have the ability to sense things.</p>
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<p>This is the only thing that got me through college drop off without falling apart. It works.</p>
<p>My hubby’s favorite: “Better to be invisible than agile.”</p>
<p>Build a bridge and get over it.</p>