<p>Sending you my deepest condolences. I’m sure you and your new family member will be a great comfort to each other.</p>
<p>I lost one of my best friends at Christmas 2005 from cancer. He was married to my college roommate, and I had individual friendships with each of them as well as a couple friendship. I still miss him every single day – and I talk with her (usually online) every day as she currently lives 300 miles from our home state.</p>
<p>It’s not quite as raw after a year … but don’t ask me to talk about him too much because I’ll still tear up thinking of him.</p>
<p>cnp, It is so nice that you touch base with your friend daily. I think that the bereaved are soon forgotten. After the first week or two, most people forget how lonely they are, how much assistance and advice they could use, and much they must be hurting. They could use a good friend and some extra loving attention.</p>
<p>Two very good friends are battling with lung and breast cancer. That just takes my breath away and my dear dad died with cancer this fall. You don’t every get over it. You adjust. My sympathies to you now.</p>
<p>I was looking up walkathons, and the like…I just signed up to do the Avon Walk in SF…guess feeling like I am doing something for others with cancer and being part of the something like that, giving hugs to others will help</p>
<p>it is amazing how many have lost someone to cancer…and how many have lost people so young…just reminds me to be there for each other…and to not let the petty stuff get me down</p>
<p>take care all</p>
<p>This is a happy and sad thread, all at once. Thinking of everyone’s losses described here, and my own loss of two close friends in the last 6 years, brings the tears forward. But thinking of the friendships I treasured, and that everyone here has treasured and is treasuring, that brings joy to the spirit.</p>
<p>To friendship.</p>
<p>To friendship indeed.</p>
<p>I’m sorry about your loss.</p>
<p>yeah to friendships, may we nuture, value and care for them</p>
<p>it makes me feel good when I look at the friends my H has, some for over 25 years…he may not see them as often as he likes, but they are the kind you can call at 2am to deal with a flat…I know I could call anyone of them in an emergency…and my Ds, well, it is interesting watching the friendship shift as they grow</p>
<p>CGM: So sorry to hear about your good friend! How sad. It is so generous of you to take her dog. I’m sure that gave her some comfort.</p>
<p>CGM - There’s a wonderful memoir by Anne Lamotte called ‘Operating Instructions.’ It’s an account of the birth of the author’s son, a difficult, colicky baby. I bring it up because in this book there’s an amazing section about Lamotte’s best friend who died during that difficult first year of the baby’s life. That section is about the loveliest, most moving a tribute to a friend and friendship I’ve ever read. It may give you a lot of comfort – certainly the book itself will give you a lot of laughs, reasons to think and reminders to embrace life - and friends.</p>
<p>I have read the book…I will pull it out…thank you</p>
<p>Today her dog did something sooo cute, he was flirting, can’t exactlly explain it, reached for the phone to call my friend to share, as I did often, but then I remembered…sigh</p>
<p>I hope this thread helps others, it has helped me alot</p>
<p>We often get contenious on CC regarding politics, colleges, issues, etc, but we have more in common than we imagine</p>
<p>Off to give some belly rubs!!!</p>
<p>I was talking to my Ds last night about the void left by my dear friends death. That I need to find a new BF…they both reminded me that I have some great friends…so I decided to have a Ladies Night In…inviting all my ladies to a simple dinner at my house (good take out)…with invitations and all</p>
<p>Get them to meet each other, reconnect </p>
<p>Thanks for all the support, and this is my small step to nuture those friendships</p>