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<p>Sid- not to worry!! I think that would be berurah’s idea of eternal glory!! In fact I can just picture her in about 25 years surrounded by about 30 grandchildren :)</p>
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andi~
<em>ROFLMAO</em> From your keyboard to G-d’s ears…however, I am terrified that after having grown up in this combination of romper room/madhouse, my kids will KNOW better than to have too many kids!!! <em>lol</em> ;)</p>
<p>~b.</p>
<p>berurah,
I read this thread a little bit yesterday but didn’t have time to respond. I can totally see myself depressed when S’s birthday rolls around next December and he is away :(</p>
<p>I can’t wait to hear your S’s reaction to the overnighted box-o-goodies!!!</p>
<p>berurah:</p>
<p>a Texas sized hug…In our case S will be here on Spring break, but he leaves day before his b’day.</p>
<p>How about planning a delayed celebration during his spring break or next time he’s home? You can plan something he (and you) can really look forward to. With younger children still at home, and celebrating birthdays, I suspect that this is even all the more poignant to you now. My best wishes to you, and as you know, you are far from alone in feeling this way -</p>
<p>irish~
Our NYE baby is DEFINITELY a free spirit----and SO much fun too! And she likes the fact that the whole world celebrates her birthday! 
Despite having passed the Mad Hatter numerous times, we never did manage to stop in there…I’m glad it’s got the seal of approval of YOUR family!</p>
<p>sid~
Awwwwwwwwwww, how cool to have a student post on this thread!!! Thanks for that and also for your hugs! And yes, you HAVE made me feel better with your grandchildren comment–I will absolutely LOVE being a grandmother one day, only I hope that I can manage to not LOOK like one EVER!! <em>lol</em> ;)</p>
<p>~berurah</p>
<p>DrDrewsMom~
Well, rest assured that I’ll be here to hold YOUR hand when you need it next December. At least with a December birthday, you know he’ll be home for winter break soon after. Just as we will have a celebration of some sort when he gets home for spring break, you can have one when your son makes it home for winter break! Thanks so much for coming by and posting!</p>
<p>simba~
I’ve gotta tell ya, sweetie, you just made my day!! Most of the CC males sure aren’t into hugs, are they?? 
I was beginning to feel SO rejected by the guys!! <em>pout</em> But then, you offered your Texas-sized hug, which I will most happily return in kind–we Texans have to stick together, right?! Thanks, simba! </p>
<p>roshke~
Thanks so much for posting and letting me know that I am in good company in my sadness over missing S’s birthday…I definitely think that we will have a celebration when he comes home for spring break. We’re a major food-lovin’ family, so, really, any excuse for a party…and this is the best excuse of all!!! I so appreciate your kind thoughts.</p>
<p>~berurah</p>
<p>berurah,
I just spent the last week visiting my grandma, grandparents are the best! i am sure you will make a lovely grandma… a hip young looking one at that! :)</p>
<p>sid~
Awwwwwwwwwww, sid, you are SO dang cute!!! Your grandparents are SO lucky!!! And, YOU are lucky…my kids’ grandparents are not AT ALL into the grandparenting thang, so my kids have NEVER gotten to go and spend any time alone with their grandparents. I am hoping to MAJORLY change THAT tradition with the next generation, as long as I can still stay “hip and young looking”!! Hey, BTW, if you need some more parents, I’ll adopt you…but only if your parents don’t mind sharing!</p>
<p>love, ~berurah</p>
<p>First, let me add my hugs. The neat thing about hugs is that you get one when you give one. </p>
<p>Then I have some news you may not want to hear. You remember on another thread, when you discovered my family was actually living with you, and that was one of the reasons it was so crowded there??? Well… my oldest S also has a birthday on Sunday … so now you have more cookies to bake. :)</p>
<p>S is turning 23, and celebrating far, far, away. He’s in DC; we’re … not. When I talked to him last week, he was trying to decide how to celebrate – what kind of party to throw himself. All he wanted from us was money, so he could buy himself more guitar toys. I hate giving money. I mailed him a check, but tucked it inside a children’s book (in German - which he minored in) about castles. He likes German chocolate, too, but the last time I mailed some, it melted along the way, so left it out this time. The package may take awhile to get there; the post is so unpredictible – I mailed several Christmas presents at the same time one year, and one arrived in days, another took over 2 months. I may have to resort to an e-card myself.</p>
<p>I envy you your 8-year-old baby. My baby turns 17 this year. Last night she came home from a town-sponsored Fasching (Mardi Gras) party after I was already in bed. She came into my room, modelling the Viking hat she wore, and telling me all about the masses of people at the party, and I lay in bed watching her, thinking about how confident, grown-up, and gorgeous she was becoming…</p>
<p>binx~
<em>lololol</em> O.K., which one of you took the cookies I had sitting on the counter!!??!!??
Outside of that, I think that this living arrangement is working out quite nicely! I mean, each of us has a son with a birthday this Sunday, and each of us has a grown-up and gorgeous 17-year-old girl! I can’t BELIEVE that our sons share a birthday! How cool is THAT?? And you know I’d make him (and YOU) cookies anytime!</p>
<p>I think your idea of tucking the check inside of a German children’s book is the coolest idea! And I hope it doesn’t take MONTHS to get to him! </p>
<p>{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}} to you for being away from your oldest baby on his 23rd birthday—trust me, I KNOW how hard it is…</p>
<p>And thanks for your hugs!!</p>
<p>~berurah</p>
<p>Berurah I really do feel for you - - - S1 was gone for the first time ever on a B’day in September, and I was depressed the whole day.</p>
<p>Hugs to you!</p>
<p>But, I have to LOL at myself cause when I first saw the title of your post I thought you might be talking about your own impending B’Day. Talk about PROJECTION! I must be thinking about ME . . .about to hit the big FIVE OH in about five weeks!~:)</p>
<p>Hang in there, Berurah-Mom. You are the best!</p>
<p>momofthree~
Obviously I can SOOOOOOOOOOOOO relate! A September birthday must have been terribly difficult for you to miss because it was so early in the whole “missing our college students” thing as it was. I was pretty sad in September even WITHOUT a birthday to contend with…</p>
<p>Thanks for your sweet hugs!!</p>
<p>And though I really didn’t WANT to see yet another birthday three weeks ago (mine is Feb. 4, making FOUR of our family members in February!!), I was not nearly as traumatized by that as I am by missing S’s!! </p>
<p>Sooooooooooooo, the big 5-0 in five weeks!!?? You deserve a very special celebration, and I hope you get one!!</p>
<p>Thanks so much for all of your support…It’s kind of embarrassing to admit how much this entire thread REALLY HAS helped my spirits!!</p>
<p>love, ~berurah</p>
<p>Berurah, you are very welcome to be my net mum :)</p>
<p>sid~
OMG, sid, I am SO honored!! And I’ve NEVER gotten to be a “mum” before…I’m SOOOOOOOOO excited!! :)</p>
<p><3 <3 <3 ~berurah</p>
<p>I like the idea about the ecards. I sent my S one in case his snail mail doesn’t get there. I got it from here:</p>
<p><a href=“http://www.billnye.com/[/url]”>http://www.billnye.com/</a></p>
<p>He always did like the Science Guy! Anybody else got any great (and free) ecard sites?</p>
<p>binx~
Thanks for that link!! My son is VERY science-y, and I’d not seen that site before!! I’ll be interested to see if anyone else has some cool e-card sites! </p>
<p>~berurah</p>
<p>Berurah, A friend of mine who used to live in Israel told me that in that country, the person who is feted and congratulated on birthday day is the child’s mother! So, congratulations to you and me today!!!</p>
<p>B,
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<p>to you.</p>
<p>Wishing D and both of your sons a very happy birthday. </p>
<p>You are not alone in your feelings as I had dinner friday night with one of my friends (our kids have been friends since kindergarten). Her son has recently returned to Tulane and he recently asked them to come to NOLA to celebrate his birthday with him (he will be 20 this spring). She told me at the beginning she and her husband were on opposite sides of the issue. For her it was a mommy thing, for him, it was the expense of flying R/T to NOLA, hotels, time off, getting him a gift, etc. </p>
<p>She explained to husband the reasons that they needed to go: </p>
<p>He has gone through the second major disruption in the past few years (getting displaced by Katrina, and they also lived a few blocks from ground zero and had to be relocated for almost a year) and maybe just wants some consistency.</p>
<p>Son told them that he did not want anything for his birthday, he just wanted them to come down spend the day and have dinner with him and his friends. They have decided to go.</p>
<p>At dinner, I told her that son turning 20 which in my opinion is big because while legally you are an adult at 18, turning 20 is kind of like the last birthday you have which to be a “kid” because of all of the expectations that come with turning the big “21” and being a real adult.</p>
<p>After I told her that I had my own lighbulb moment, as my D will be on campus for sophmore summer and it will be the first time that I am not able to celebrate her birthday with her. I willtake solace in the fact that family weekend is a few days after her birthday,so there will be a belated celebrations.</p>
<p>Since both of your sons have birthdays on the same day, try to coordinate the whole family, get on the phone (hope you got a speaker phone) sing happy birthday to both of them just like you would if they were both at home. All of the other kids would get to wish S1 a happy birthday and he can have a special moment with his “twin”.</p>
<p>It really fills my heart to read your post as you are such a great mom and I know your kids feel so blessed to have you as theirs (and you have mutual admiration for them )</p>
<p>searchingavalon~</p>
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OMG, our kids share a birthday!!! Well, CONGRATS to you, my friend. And a VERY happy birthday to your D!!!</p>
<p>Funny story…on my eighteenth birthday, the doorbell to my parents’ house rang, and I went to open it. It was my boyfriend carrying a HUGE bouquet of red roses!!! He stepped inside, and as I went to take the gorgeous flowers from him, he sort of sidestepped me and walked behind me into the den and approached my mother. He gave her the entire bouquet and said simply, “THANK YOU for having her!!!” Needless to say, he was their favorite of my boyfriends! <em>lol</em> ;)</p>
<p>I am so hoping that my daughters find similar kinds of guys! ;)</p>
<p>~berurah</p>